Well, hello all married guppies. Hope all of you are in good health. My question is how long did it take you guys to conceive naturally once you started trying? Also, if you were not able to conceive on your own what kind of recommendations did the doctors make? Also, any tips on getting preggo quickly without the intervention of medicine.
We have just started trying and was wondering all the tips a women should be aware of before conception.
Thank you!!!
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i meant woman
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In my opinion, plz burra mat samajhna 
… if you have to resort to extreme extreme methods such as drugs, medicine, surrogate mother hood, etc etc to have children, then maybe it’s a sign from God that you’re not meant to bear ur own kids and adoption might be better… 
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Allah na kare. I have not come to that point yet. Both my hubby and I are fine. We just started tring. I was waiting to finish school first. I have graduated and this is my next project to work on. InshaAllah, Allah will bless us with our own children.
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Let's hope not. I just think if one has to resort to unnatural methods, couples going broke with treatments etc, then its not worth the risk. If you take drugs, the chances of kids not coming out right goes up. Its kinda scary..
I still think adoption is a great thing, whether you bear your own children or not, but too many desis n muslims look down on it for hte stupidest reasons...its pathetic really.
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well the only reason i wouldn't want to adopt is b/c i want more than one kid, which means at least one baby girl and one boy. Islamically speaking, the boy wouldnt be a mehram to the girl. something like that. too long to explain. need sleep. bye
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^ That’s what I mean…
Some issues should take precedence over others. I can’t understand, what sicko would take in a small child, raise them and marry them just becuase they can? With the adoption issue, taking in an orphan, giving them a life, should be more important than segregation and na-mehram 
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You tell me why is it more important to keep a man away from a girl/woman than adopting a child?
It's ridiculous to think that just because one is not related to you that you will marry them. Some ppl get so caught up in some aspect of Islam that they totally forget the other...
We haev numerous daily interactions with men and women not related to us and we dn't bat an eye at that. But adopting a child, noooooo that's wronggggg. Gimme a break
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Sara, what I think he is trying to say is that the siblings may be non-mehrams to each other. Yes, daily interactions are normal; however, one would still have to observe hijab (if willing to practice Islam), which could be a bit difficult.
Anyway, that's his choice and we should respect it.
It's good to see you so strong and positive about adoption. Whenever you get a chance, do it and be a shining example for others.
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You gals have just taken the discussion to a totally different direction. Mehru serves you right for limiting the discussion only to "woman". :-p
Anyway, marriage means two people, and a married guy can give you as much information about time it takes to conceive.
Basically, it depends. It can be as early as the first month or it can take years. If you were using birth control pills, it may take a few weeks/months before the effects wears off and you'd be able to conceive. Assuming both of you are physically ok, and have regular intercourse. I know of cases where perfectly healthy couples took years before finally conceiving. It does help to monitor your ovulation cycle and have intercourse prior to that. Usually ovulation occurs around 11-14th day (starting from the first day of your menstural period) - but for some women, it can start as early as 8th day. Those who have very irregular menstrual cycles, its hard to predict as well. I'd say give yourselves a year or 18 months, before getting seriously worried and at that time, both of you should get yourselves checked out properly by doctor (he for sperm-count and quality, and you for several internal things that can affect fertilization). Hopefully, it won't come to that, and pretty soon you'd have khushkhabri, Insha Allah.
Too much information, I know, but looking at your first post here, there is really no way of knowing how much you already knew, and how much is new information for you.
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He who? :-|
I understnad observing hijab is very important, but I still think in this case, adoption triumphs over it. If I were raised alongside someone all my life, why shouldn't I think of him as a brother? I know it's not hte "logical" line of thinking, being more emoitonal than rational here, but I fail to see how adoption can be a bad or negative thing
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How many married women replied to his?
Zero.
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Does wannabe married count? :D
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not true
shutup
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ummm where on earth did Aishaaa say adoption is wrong or shouldnt take place? she made a valid point.. thats all
eveyone has their reasons for adopting or not... sheesh
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i know
leave me alone 
stupid monkies
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couples can opt for IVF
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mahru aunty, try karti rahein. jab allah ko manzoor hoga tou app ki goud hari ho jai gi..
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^ he's talking about green puke that babies throw up when being burped.
:D