Sorry to disagree here Confucius but i don't see how he wants to make this relationship better when all he wants is the other person to change. this is his main concern k how to change Her or if she'll b ever changed? he doesn't want to go to her level to understand her but want her to adjust to his level. relationships don't work like that. Same for Jadugar he's having a hard time coz of same reason that wife needs to b changed. i found the comment "This is the kind of individual that are hard to change" so pathetic. u call ur wife individual. this is the respect u giv her. why should she change herself even an inch for a guy like u? u guys wont ever become compatible coz u dont know how to mould urself. but just trying to break ur partner by being hard n strict on them.
*when u marry someone from a diff background or different approach to life, u both change n adjust to each other's lifestyle. if its one person who is giving n other only expecting then its a disaster. coz it has to be 50-50. *
*give b4 u expect anything. make sacrifices and compromises on ur lifestyle first only then u'll know how hard is it to giv up ur ways for another person. only then u'll value and understand ur spouse sacrifices. and if u think u cant do it then leave the other person as is too.
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Mabrook
I appreciate your comments... and totally agree with your points (high lighted in purple)
But women and men have their faults and if change makes us better then we should embrace it..
I myself have many faults and I respect when someone wants to help me become a better person, all that impacts us is how we are given the steer of changing ourselves...
To be ridiculed into change isn't the way.. to change someone with love.. makes it become easier...
If you fall in love with someone knowing all their faults then I'd give that person a hard time for wanting to change his or her spouse but if you can help someone become a better person then I don't think is is wrong but then before you ask or wish for someone to change you need to look within yourself to see if you have the same faults as you see in others..