I am just constantly thinking i made a mistake and i could have done better. Not being bigheaded but I have done well for myself, got houses of my own, nyc car, graduated from a good uni, gt a gud job and im reasonably good looking. when our family went to this place after wedding, I felt so awkward when walking with her. I felt oh man what m i doing with this girl bcz they dont even walk proper in pakistan.....Also, dont like her mannerisms, she thinks she is all that and says childish things like she is clever when she is not really,,,and even if she was, why would u blow ur own trumpet,,,may be this is her way of tryin to impress.. Also, she can be very rude sometimes for example saying things like I got nice dark hair but yours arn't, r dey? i was like ryttttttt n ur point is? i got reasonable good hair but i spike them up and she is always saying how it looks stupid etc. she wasn't even joking n she always says things like that. *I can diss her so much but i feel it would be rude but she doesn't see such comments as rudeness. * I dont even feel like speaking to her on the phone cz the conversation just annoys me more. I know i made the decision of getting married and it is not her fault. I m jus concerned, worried, panicking n all the rest of it lol. Do people change when they come to uk? their mannerisms?
wish i knew it would be so difficult n i wud av never got married from backhome. There are way too many differences even though she is educated. I shudnt say it but it makes me cringe even talkin to her..... i know it sounds realy mean but i wish it wasnt d case. Sometimes i cnt sleep when i think about it n sometimes i get realy angry about it. part of me blames my parents. ** Also when i hear stories about girls from backhome being sly, two faced and manipulative, it puts me off even more**.
.To b honest, what adds to my bitterness is i cnt help but compare her to d girls i bin out with before, who were so much better lookin but nt so ful ov demselves or ever spoke to me like dat...dasy i find it more annoyin when shes tryin to be clever wv me. **den i think may be shes tryin to play mindgames as i heard girls frm pakistan r sly n manipulative...i dn know ,,may b im readin too much into it but may b im right...stil **shes reasonably goodlookin. However, shes nt as goodlookin as shes been made to believe by d people around her...which is another annoyin bit abt her. looks r not d issue4 me tho, its d personality, mannerisms n general attitude i simply cnt stand n i hope it will change in time!
i*t is possible to change the mannerisms,, attitudes,,,how easy is it..how long does it take ...this is me making an effort, isn it? *
However, im open minded sort of guy n in a way want u to tel me if u think it is me cz it might be just me.
Also, my hair style is wkd n galz luv it, far from gayish n im nt one ov them arrogant types atall even though i wud suit it with what i am n what i av achieved but i aint.
*So relli she will have to change her n i expect that, right or wrong. * yea i panic n have thoughs like i will av a borin life n she will neve change etc but overall, i will try to make it work but i relli hope she is not the sly, manipulative n cunning type of girl from pakistan i keep hearin abt from my friends. Naabigh if im honest although when we decided to move on, i thought that was it and got over it but **when i got married, it came back to me n initially i found myself thinkin how it wud av bin different with my ex and how much she luved me n understud me n what my life wud av bin like if i was wid her etc. **However, I consciously made an effort to stop thinkin abt dat as dats childish n i dont compare anymore and i have stopped having those thoughts now. Now its just a general worri mainly
*1- is it possible to change sumones attitude, thinking n mannerisms. *
sara why u saying that? If u feel im wrong, plz tel me wt makes u say dat? you might be right,,,,,Also, ur views might help me to reflect on my thinking n re-evaluate the whole situation!
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you dont' enter a marriage expecting the person to change. if you do..u set them and yourself up for failure.