hmm u know shes not badlookin..overall, yea i think she is attractive n goodlookin..actually everyone in pakistan thinks she is gorgeous. However, its subjective isn it. for me attraction is linked to d oda person's attitude, personality etc
Well the attraction thing is a good start, at least u haven't ended up married to some girl u could never fancy. U do seem to genuinely want to make a go of it, just those little irritating traits she has is making u think twice. A lot of lads would not even make any effort and just find some other girl to give them what they reckon they're missing. It's good u've got ur own place so u can get to know each other, likes, dislikes, ur sense of humour (for example I have quite an immature sense of humour that doesn't go down well with a lot of elders) etc without the overbearingness of other family members. Honestly speaking, those things that were niggling u prob wouldn't disappear if u stayed with ur parents cos most of the time they have a tendency esp when 'back home' girls are concerned, to try and get them to hold onto their 'desi-ness' rather than adapt and adjust to western culture. If u don't like talking to her on the phone cos she irritates u right now maybe u could email each other instead? It's a nice 'gentle' and easy way to get to know a person without having to handle them in 'large doses' lol.
When she comes over try and makes sure she gets out of the house a lot and I'm sure she'll adapt and change naturally to fit her surroundings, that's y I mentioned the driving and perhaps uni or work so she mixes more with outsiders and she'll learn herself to change her behaviour eg not talk in the rude, straightforward way they do bk in Pakistan. Take her out shopping, for nice meals etc treat her as u would if she'd been a girl u'd gone out with and married from here. Also, try and introduce her to other girls her age so she feels more at home and she'll also learn from them those little cultural nuances that can make so much of a difference when it comes to interacting with u. Like I mentioned, the boys often just get 'bored' and the marriage becomes dead cos they go and live the life they should be living with their wife with some other girl instead :( There's a huge gulf in attitude and outlook between our parents and us, unfortunately a lot of them still naively believe that just cos we have desi blood running thru us we must automatically have some common 'bond' with ppl back home without taking into account our surrounding environment and upbringing.