There is a huge cultural gap between pakistanis raised abroad and those raised in Pakistan.
Pakistanis abroad have been raised with manners... We know its not appropriate to insult anyone because we are sensitive of their feelings.
When I visit Pakistan, I am constantly shocked at how rude and crude Pakistanis are. They insult you to your face, calling you fat, ugly and constantly compare themselves to you. Its inherent in their nature and most importantly they think its OK.
I honestly think she'll eventually change once she comes to live with you in the UK, but you have to give it time. Once she moves to the UK explain to her the cultural norms and what is and is not acceptable to do and say..
i totally agree
woah! this is a bit uncalled for and a rather generalist theory! i am not having the best times with the scrutinizing eyes of pakistanis abroad either, but m not complaining! it's not so clever to roll everyone in the same grain! dont forget that pakistan has multiple class levels, and it depends on who you're connected with back home ... you'll find every kind of person everwhere ... dont talk about "pakistanis" like this and think you're raised better! pffffff!
you think you're not hurting anyone's feeling by writing this, even though you're raised better?