Married daughters being the 'sons of the house'.

[Bigboi]

Re: Married daughters being the ‘sons of the house’.

@psyah

Personally I can see that there is a natural state for women to serve their parents, but men find it more difficult to do that when they are married, because of their responsibilities to their wives and children. As a result it is no wonder that the duty to give to parents is documented for men so it cannot be debated and when it comes to women their natures are already inclined to give to parents anyway.

Islam preserves the rights and duties of patronage and welfare these are two different things.

When a subject of a land presents a gift to his king as an offering of respect when he comes to see him, this is very different to when a rich person presents money to the poor.

The first case is the sense of patronage and the second is the sense of charity. Since parents are in a rank above us and from other wisdoms we cannot give them zakat, although we can give them sadaqah.

If we give money to our parents we do so with humility and subordinance to them, if we support orphans on the other hand then the mindset is different. The reason for this is that parents are already in a position above us and we are always in debted to them, this is not the case with orphans.

When it comes to duty males provide the right that their parents have over them in the form of money, any additional money given is sadaqah. All money given by daughters is sadadah and none of the money should be given out of benevolence but out of duty and subordinance to them.

However to say that a woman must support her parents and if she does not is in any way blameworthy then I reject this claim.

so it is blameworthy when a man doesn’t support his parents?