Any one else on the same boat? I’ve moved on but I just had a crazy dream last night and I don’t know why this just never stops. When will it all just stop. It’s so fricken hard to concentrate. Any one go through what I am? I’ve always figured out everything but I’m really stuck here in this situation and any help would be appreciated. Is there some kind of fatwah towards this…
btw I’m happy with my married life and I love my wife to death, she takes care of me like a king so I have no complaints about that but I can’t stand these stupid dreams any more.
Re: Married but still having dreams about your ex-girl/boy friend.
It's completely normal. No matter how much you "move on", you can never forget your ex. It's part of your memory, no matter how hard you try, you just can't get rid of those memories. Focus on loving the person that loves you and treats you like a king. She deserves all your love and attention.
I’m not mentioning it, it’s just coming in my dreams and it comes out of no where. I"ll be okay for about 2 weeks and then I get slammed with the craziest dream and I wake up thinking about it for the rest of the day. Some one shoot me.
She knows about her but not about the dreams. What you don't know can't hurt you so I have no reason to tell her that. Just trying to see if some one going through what I am found a solution.
Re: Married but still having dreams about your ex-girl/boy friend.
rocky... u maybe thinkn of the person at theback of ur mind or the days tht were spent withtht person or not even tht if ur thinkn of the days when u were with tht person ..... it its a cycle thing ryt n wht goes up must come down wht goes around must comes around so.... maybe its just coming around n it will pas ahista ahista :)
things like thi hapen alot with me but it doesnt means tht we still love tht person n not loving our hubby/wify nemore....
u love ur wife dearly m sure so do i love my hubby but X gf/bf is sumthin tht is a part of our memory our life our emotions our feelings n our body......
samjhe :) u cant forget somebody completely until u lose ur memory get it
So you're saying the only way to move on is either completely lose my memory which means I'll have to get in some kind of coma or go to some crazy russian lab where they zap that part of the brain for me. This is just crazy. It's good to know though there are many here that can relate to my problem.
Re: Married but still having dreams about your ex-girl/boy friend.
Dude i think you need some distraction and some thing new to think about. May be once you’ll have children these memories will fade away. But I don’t understand that if you had all those precious memories of a person you loved, than why you wana run away from them? They are not causing any trouble for your marriage, are they?
But off course time is a big healer. Sooner or later they will be gone or at least intensity will be less.
Re: Married but still having dreams about your ex-girl/boy friend.
Just because you have precious memories of something doesn't mean it can't bother you down the road. Problem is I'm completely satisfied with everything but I hate waking up in the morning with an exotic dream about my old gal. Not only that it ruins the entire day for me cause I don't want anything to do with it anymore. I wish there was a delete option.
Just because you have precious memories of something doesn't mean it can't bother you down the road. Problem is I'm completely satisfied with everything but I hate waking up in the morning with an exotic dream about my old gal. Not only that it ruins the entire day for me cause I don't want anything to do with it anymore. I wish there was a delete option.
You're obviously thinking about her too much.
If you really love your wife as you say then you need to work on your conscience. The best way to do that is to first make a decision and ask Allah for help.
Re: Married but still having dreams about your ex-girl/boy friend.
In this specific dream I kept telling her that I don't remember telling you how beautiful you are and I kept saying that to her while she was laying beside me in bed. She cooked food for me and sang a song with me that we liked a lot (mora sayian by fuzon) only paki song I ever liked and she was crying in the dream. I wake up feeling guilty and crap. Luckily I'm out here in Philadelphia (business trip)away from home. (i miss home)
Fatwa is .. stop mentioning it
