Married and confused

[redvelvet]

@""Bobby1""

Not proud of my past where I cracked skulls and broke ribs, was in the UNI weight lifting team also. Where I come from real men are gentle, caring, loving and considerate towards their wives. I know in certain parts of the world tiny lil man childs think that oppressing and abusing wife is real manliness.

Mostly we interact with athletes and their families and most dads are athletes also built like tanks and these big men are also bending over backwards for their petite wives. At Jeremies party, he is 6-2’ gold Medalist, his dad also a towering brute and both son and father did all the cooking, cleaning and dishes and would only address petite wife as honey, darling, sweetheart etc. Big men are loving towards their wives, lil inscure men are jerks towards them.

Real man?

Not proud of your bad-boy past…but YET…you’re still gonna use that past to prove how masculine you are. Uhm okay.

There is not sufficient evidence in his posts to arrive at the conclusion that he abuses and oppresses his wife. Stop acting like the Peeping Tom of every Desi household who knows what happens in every marriage 24/7.

Nobody needs to provide you an inventory of the hugs and kisses and favors bestowed on their spouse for your to then take those figures and compare them to your own marriage …before giving your stamp of approval as to whether they are are a loving enough spouse or otherwise.

[Bobby1]

QUOT.

[decentGuy]

@""Bobby1""

Wouldn’t you be the catch of the century?

When you attack people personally, it helps no one. The quality of discussion only goes down after that.

[Bobby1]

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[Abbasilk]

@Bobby1

Calm down Rambo, We all know by now you are a one-man Army and have fought and defeated many wife abusing monsters and your clan, also is a mixture of elite athletes and bad boys like yourself. I hope you get nominated for Sitara -e- Jurrat soon.

I appreciate the reasonable responses both criticism and suggestion from other members.

[decentGuy]

@""Bobby1""

You know when people neglect their children and opress their wives and try to impose the savage ideologies on them, calling them out would be a benefit to the society.

So how are your children, funny you never discuss fatherhood?

If your ideas were strong enough, you wouldn’t feel this need to attack people personally.

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[Abbasilk]

This discussion thing has turned into a bragging rights competition and your certainly in the lead buddy. Congrats !!!

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Can we all take a minute and step back and hear out OP while suggesting the best possible solution? Lets get it done without calling anyone names or indulging our own stories over & over again.

Thank you!

[Bobby1]

@decentGuy
I am not sure you were sincerely looking for a solution to your problem, you just wanted validation of your behavior. if you were sincerely looking for great advice than I gave it to him and to you and that is learn to accept women as equals, dont compel them to do things they dont want to, dont treat wives as maids, if they didnt clean then pitch in and clean yourself, looking after your own kids is not a favor to your wife and above all don’t take wives for granted, show them love, caring and appreciation and forget about your ego and look after your biggest responsibility to raising your children.

So it might not fit the oppressive and mysoginistic narrative but great advice none the less.

[decentGuy]

@""Bobby1""

@decentGuy
I am not sure you were sincerely looking for a solution to your problem, you just wanted validation of your behavior. if you were sincerely looking for great advice than I gave it to him and to you and that is learn to accept women as equals, dont compel them to do things they dont want to, dont treat wives as maids, if they didnt clean then pitch in and clean yourself, looking after your own kids is not a favor to your wife and above all don’t take wives for granted, show them love, caring and appreciation and forget about your ego and look after your biggest responsibility to raising your children.

So it might not fit the oppressive and mysoginistic narrative but great advice none the less.

So you are mad that people don’t listen to your relationship advice?

[Bobby1]

@""decentGuy""

So you are mad that people don’t listen to your relationship advice?

I am mad at the reported 93 percent abuse rates and that the society has been deemed the lowest in gender equality. Also I am mad at fathers who think their ego is more important than the well being of their children.

[decentGuy]

@""Bobby1""

I am mad at the reported 93 percent abuse rates and that the society has been deemed the lowest in gender equality. Also I am mad at fathers who think their ego is more important than the well being of their children.

Do you think a person doing some serious abuse will need your validation or anyone else?s validation online?

[Bobby1]

@""decentGuy""

Do you think a person doing some serious abuse will need your validation or anyone else?s validation online?

Even mass murderers and child molesters are looking for validation. Abuse as per our law does not have to be physical, it can be mental, emotional. psychological also. Compelling a woman to wear clothes you accept or to cook and clean is abuse in our society and laws.

[decentGuy]

@""Bobby1""

Even mass murderers and child molesters are looking for validation. Abuse as per our law does not have to be physical, it can be mental, emotional. psychological also. Compelling a woman to wear clothes you accept or to cook and clean is abuse in our society and laws.

They do not come online to seek validation. Do you think differences b/w spouses are abuse as well?

[Bobby1]

@""decentGuy""

They do not come online to seek validation. Do you think differences b/w spouses are abuse as well?

Differences are okay but compelling the other to live life as per your views is considered abuse in our laws. If your wife wants to wear western clothes and you make her feel that she is immoral for doing that, then that is abuse.