Marriages talks have ended *help me get over heartbreak*

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Re: Marriages talks have ended help me get over heartbreak

@qtc88

I basically critiqued him in an uncomfortable manner, when he is really soft-spoken and well-mannered. I hurt his feelings and didn’t give him time to speak and counter the things I had to say. I ended off our conversation by saying “so should we call it off” and he responded “yes”. So I’m the one who suggested the idea to end things, and he is a man of his word, and learned to be mentally accepting of this fact that things are over.

It’s a deal breaker for him to have a wife who is not good at resolving conflicts, and to him, what I did was immature, overwhelming, and bad for his esteem. It’s understandable.

It’s ok, that is a learning experience for you. we all say things that we regret later and sometimes, it costs us a lot too. but you have to remember that what is meant to be is far greater than communication issues, misunderstandings, manners etc. if Allah swt wills smtng, it happens regardless.

But I also dont appreciate those who give no second chances, considering it is so easy to make a communication mistake. Long time ago, I did smtng similar and had to face similar consequences as yourself. I felt like I was the worst person when I knew deep down in my heart, I always always wished well for the other person involved, always prayed for their well being and just bc i made a silly communication mistake, it was held against me. Was that fair?..I dont know but what I do know is who you are in your heart is FAR FAR bigger than your words, communication, and other things ppl place so much emphasis on these days. If you have a good heart and this person felt you were worth getting to know, then I feel he needs to forgive you.

If this person is hurt still, maybe you should consider giving him some time, i dunno. but dont beat yourself over it.