Why hazrat Aisha (R)? Why are YOU GUYS putting Hazrat Khadija (R) down by insulting her age, and her decision to marry someone younger and her decision to marry a second time, and that too in late age, and have kids in her 40's?
Because that's what is being done by the Pakistani community. They may not show it, but this whole thread speaks of disrespect for her.
Age of the wife is nothing to do with islam. The Prophet SAW married both older and younger women. Which means there is no distinction. Stop trying to pick and chose from among the examples in Islamic History.
Unless offcourse you have all that angel of hate for house of Abu Bakar (RA) and Aisha (RA). In that case I won't say nothing.
Don’t know if it’s funny or sad but it’s definitely amusing to see some people screaming against the “unjustice” of desi community against “older” girls/brides and at the same time these very same people keep mocking girls/brides who married young with terms like “failure”, “baby machine”, “damsel in distress” just to mention a few of course…:halo:
Maybe time to look at your own behaviour … just sometimes of course, I don’t demand too much
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As for the OP and topic; You should marry when you’re ready. Your success in a marriage will have nothing to do with your age or your degree.
^^Didn't you make a comment about westernised desis or coconuts in a thread not so long ago (and then claim it was not a negative)?
It goes BOTH ways and age (along with maturity, level of education and/or employment) could very well have something to do with how ready or able someone is for marriage..
^^Didn't you make a comment about westernised desis or coconuts in a thread not so long ago (and then claim it was not a negative)?
It goes BOTH ways and age (along with maturity, level of education and/or employment) could very well have something to do with how ready or able someone is for marriage..
Awww still hurt about that one huh? :)
As for the rest; maybe try to read and understand what I wrote instead of acting like a little kid and dragging in things which have nothing to do with the topic of this thread at least one should expect that from you now as you're a mod but I know, way too high hopes from my side.
Red velvet, you are joking right? You're really going to believe such hocum literature? Wonder who is writing it? Guys who think no one should practice the sunnah of marrying an older woman?
is 28 considered really old in the desi community? from my observation anyone above 22 is generally considered old..i am wondering if this is just me.
In my opinion , marriage age depends entirely on individual circumstance,you never too old or too young (unless your like 13 or something above 21 I'd say.)
Hazrat Muhammad was 25 when he married Hazrat Khadija (RA), who was 40. 15 years age difference.
Hazrat Muhammad was 50 when he married Hazrat Aisha (RA), who was 6 (albeit consumated when she was mature at age 9). 44 years age difference.
That is the Islamic perspective anyway.
is 28 considered really old in the desi community? from my observation anyone above 22 is generally considered old..i am wondering if this is just me.
In my opinion , marriage age depends entirely on individual circumstance,you never too old or too young (unless your like 13 or something above 21 I'd say.)
Funnily enough my great grandmother married at 13 and grandmother and 15 and she had a very successful marriage. However i feel back then people especially teenagers were much more mature then they are now.
Generally whenever you feel like you are ready. Also make sure you have discussed everything before hand.
The older the better. 18-22 is waaay too young and often at this age we see things differently and often aren't ready enough for marriage so we can say hurtful things and do stupid stuff. Scientifically speaking, people stop growing and "evolving"(lol) by 25 so around that time would be the best.
It's not a decision to rush into as you will be spending the next 50+ years together. You want to be really sure about it!!
That’s if you take ONE hadith that is in the collection for academic purposes. There are a number of other hadith that when pieced together with the timeline of other events would put her age at 15-20 range when she was married.
Funnily enough my great grandmother married at 13 and grandmother and 15 and she had a very successful marriage. However i feel back then people especially teenagers were much more mature then they are now.
Generally whenever you feel like you are ready. Also make sure you have discussed everything before hand.
Um yeah, anything before 1950, teen marriages were common and the norm.
That's because the concept of "teenagers", etc didn't come about until later. There was no such thing as a driving age or drinking age back then, no such thing as "high school", no such thing as "college" for women at least. Even my grandmothers were home schooled. A lot of people didn't go to a formal school.
Things are different now. You're lucky if your 19 year old is acting like an adult; in the muslim community abroad most of them aren't even mature enough to get a frikkin scholarship to an actual university; they end up in community college at best. Because they're too busy goofing around.
Right. These people aren't even mature enough to handle LIFE let alone MARRIAGE.
Sister, there is consensus among sunni ulama on this matter. You have been mislead.
Also, what do you mean with this talk about timelines and academic purposes, are you implying Allah (swt) revealed his message one final time at a (time) period where there were no means to properly record that message, which is causing disrepancy? Sister, say tawbah, because doubting the wisdom of Allah (swt) is kufr, and kufr is the worst of sins. Of course Allah (swt) always make the best and wisest decisions.
was 25 when he married Hazrat Khadija (RA), who was 40. 15 years age difference.