I am 22 but I am already working with a very good pay, plus partner in business plus i got a friend and she is opening a boutique and i am a partner in that too, so if you are talk about " not well settled in life; well looks like i am :)
ok so you are a happy exception BUT are you sure you are ok for another responsibility along with all this?
Whatever you choose to do, goodluck with it. You seem to like the girl just not sure if you can do better, rite? Well in such cases you gotta take your chances, weigh the pros and cons and deal with it accordingly.
ok so you are a happy exception BUT are you sure you are ok for another responsibility along with all this?
Whatever you choose to do, goodluck with it. You seem to like the girl just not sure if you can do better, rite? Well in such cases you gotta take your chances, weigh the pros and cons and deal with it accordingly.
I think I should take this tread to the Philosophy department :P bcos 1 part of me says hey I can do better.
I think I should take this tread to the Philosophy department :P bcos 1 part of me says hey I can do better.
Hah. I can relate to this :p Believe me, It's not that easy to make such decisions because you never know what will happen in future. I very recently went through something similiar and it does make me wonder if i made the right decision or what if i won't find anyone better or even equal to that person i said no to but hey this is life and these are tough choices to make but you gotta stand by them. Seek advice from family because they usually can see what you might not be able to see right now. Plus you are young so they would have no reason to just get you married off in pressure unless you have been a bad boy :p
Hah. I can relate to this :p Believe me, It's not that easy to make such decisions because you never know what will happen in future. I very recently went through something similiar and it does make me wonder if i made the right decision or what if i won't find anyone better or even equal to that person i said no to but hey this is life and these are tough choices to make but you gotta stand by them. Seek advice from family because they usually can see what you might not be able to see right now. Plus you are young so they would have no reason to just get you married off in pressure unless you have been a bad boy :p
NO I haven't been a bad boy it's just that my mum is like main bahu ghar lana chahti hoon grand children ko khelana chahti hoon.
Well Zareen this is what i want to figure out why is it that something simple as this could be this complicated i mean shouldn't it be like your parents choose and you go for it; because I think ones whole life his parents keep growing their kids. I think atleast they should have the opportunity to choose their bahu . Now i dont wanna hear kay do you wanna live with her or your parents. I think a parent knows very well what his kids wants.
Well Zareen this is what i want to figure out why is it that something simple as this could be this complicated i mean shouldn't it be like your parents choose and you go for it; because I think ones whole life his parents keep growing their kids. I think atleast they should have the opportunity to choose their bahu . Now i dont wanna hear kay do you wanna live with her or your parents.** I think a parent knows very well what his kids wants**.
I most certainly agree with you! That's why i want my parents to make my decision but they tell me they can't, its my life i have to make it myself and i think it sucks :(. But it does make sense because we are adults and we should have an important say in such important decisions of our life. For example, if your mom feels she wants you to settle down so that she can play with her grandkids, well thats rather sweet BUT is that wise at the expense of getting you married when you might not be ready for it mentally? you know what i am saying?.
If you are ready and the only thing that is holding you back is that you can do better, well unless there is alot you are letting go of in this rishta i don't see why you should say no. Because this feeling you will get anytime you are going to commit to someone.
so its time for me to get married forced by mum to get married fast I am 22 and she asked me if theres any girl you like i said no; and it's true. so she starts a hunt of her own, and finds a girl who is the only cousin back in pak who, you can say is in my age circle. so she is good looking and everything, but i don't know I wanna say no but ethically it would be wrong to reject someone since my mom has already talked to her mom, I am mean what if a girl did that to me i would feel bad. so I was talking about this to a friend of mine and he said it's not her fault that your expectations are high ;) . plus what if I try finding again I don't get any like her.
I don't know I'm confused
So gimme somethin to clear my head.
How do you accept or reject a proposal ?
No do not reject the girl that will hurt her feelings, just tell ur Mom you want to wait till you can support a Family!
Also say you want someone 6 to 8 years younger than you if that drops her out of contention! or even widen the gap if it does not...:)
You didn't mention anything which bothers you except that you are not sure about her. You have written that she is your cousin.... can't you ask your mother that you want to talk to her before finalizing things. It will give you and a girl time to understand each other. May be she is according to your expectations but you don't now because she is in different country. Discuss this with your mother... tell her what bothers you actually about her..
p.s and no you are not too young to get married. If you are financially stable and can support family then there is nothing to wait for. Get married and enjoy your life.
its your life, if you said no, your saying it for yourself, the world will not end with rishtaa's for her. She will continually get proposals, It happens. You may not feel ready for marriage, you may have just come out of uni/studies, however if you feel you want say yes, after some thought - would you be able to support this girl? will you be able to teach her english, and maybe the laws etc of this country, and al the other ways. Which she may naturally pick up. Do you feel the need for a partner? are you at that mindset.
Lots to think about it - before you take any actions.
