so its time for me to get married forced by mum to get married fast I am 22 and she asked me if theres any girl you like i said no; and it’s true. so she starts a hunt of her own, and finds a girl who is the only cousin back in pak who, you can say is in my age circle. so she is good looking and everything, but i don’t know I wanna say no but ethically it would be wrong to reject someone since my mom has already talked to her mom, I am mean what if a girl did that to me i would feel bad. so I was talking about this to a friend of mine and he said it’s not her fault that your expectations are high . plus what if I try finding again I don’t get any like her.
I don’t know I’m confused
So gimme somethin to clear my head.
says who? :halo: btw there is a difference between a male and female, the sooner we understand it the better for us all. girls r not responsible for providing for the family, the boys are hence the shock at a 22 yr old male getting married because baring exceptions boys at this age are not well settled in life. heck he wudnt even be done with his studies!
i think 22 is not the rite age for a girl even cuz she wudnt be done with her studies by that age. So yah 24-25 for girls and 27-28 for boys is good to start with.
if u don't like her....say no........and say it NOW!!!!
if you are unsure.......take some time let mom know it...delay the 'baat pakki'
if you can't say no/mom pressure.......then do what mama says :D
I am 22 but I am already working with a very good pay, plus partner in business plus i got a friend and she is opening a boutique and i am a partner in that too, so if you are talk about " not well settled in life; well looks like i am
Who says he's too young? If he's ready to get married, why should he delay? Dinar; if you're ever unsure with regards to matters as big as this, do your isthikara. Good luck!
Thats the whole thing, how can i not like her, like i said she's good looking too.
Nomic would it be ethically okay to reject anyone ?
first thing...........you don't dislike her...she is fine...but you want to reject it..........why do you want to reject?? and about rejection being ethically okay............YES its perfectly ethically ok to reject anyone................if you accept her now....despite not wanting to be with her..........thats like a 'fraud' with her.........and it would hurt both of you later on.............so better to reject it now.
. plus what if I try finding again I don’t get any like her.