Marriage...the right way?!

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Re: Marriage…the right way?!

@Code_Red

sorry i you feel burdened by bombardment of questions … but since you have shared a chalked out detailed plan of your wedding reception, which is very interesting nonetheless.. so people are generlly interested in knowing how would you go about in materializing your intended plan

you said

Mashallah, very well May God help you :k:

Now this is interesting. I know that in the families who follow these guidelines everyone knows their role and limits. The male cousins never interact with female cousins. and every house has separate section for males and female guesst. etc

Since you have explained that your family has a casual approach in this matter and no strict segregation is practised. So, The guest would need to know the code of conduct in advance.
Say you allow in some maternal, parental uncles but dont allow others (pupha, khaloo etc ) now your khala’s and pupho’s families are also there and suppose she ought to give you wedding gift (salami) and she comes to stage and asks her family to come too … so they register their presence and be part of a group photo, your pupha who is an elderly bald guy who has no interest in group fotos just goes on stage to fullfill the formality … and so does his family 2 of them are kids , other 2 boy and girl are college going fellas. How would you forsee the situation.

1. would you send a written ‘code of conduct’ to families invited in your wedding ? because if you dont, they would not know these ’ technical/religious restrictions’ you have for them in your mind.

2. or would you stand your brother/ mamoo as guard at entrance of restricted area and they will on the spot pick the ‘mehrem male relative’ and call them for group photo.

3. same question as Lusi , suppose you have 3,4 chacha tayaa and 3,4 mamoo and close family members.. if they come for group fotos turn by tunr… would that not seriously undermine the standard 100% segregation. And what the purpose of having girls as waiters ? since na mehram men are already comming and going tu why should becharey male waiters be singled out ?

The way youv’e framed ur question are funny … ok i’m gonna answer them quickly…

• we have had segregated wedding in the past in my family… everyone knows how it works, no need to give 'em a “code of conduct” lol

• i dont know if uv’e been to a segregated wedding in paki but this is how it works… there is a huge partition b/w the men and women. the entrance to both areas is seperated at the front so women & men know where they have to go.

• like i mentioned earlier, the men that are allowed in towards the conclusion of the night (after dinner when your distant jaane waale r leaving)… first the groom comes in, and all those who have to cover up do (like sisters, cousins, etc etc), those that wear a burqa do, and those that wear scarfs do so… then the rest of the males in my family are allowed in at once… i guess my dad will be incharge of that. The thing is we go to paki quite often, and ppl know what our family is like… they know how we will be doing things so no need to explain/ justify stuff to ppl… its all understood!

Wassalam