Asalam-o-alikam.
Hope everyone is okay here. Mai GS ki new user ho. This is the 1st time i am posting something. So please maaf ki jiay ga agar koi galti ker baitho to.
Actually meray liy aik rishta baija gaya hy meri khala ki taraf sy. Lerka un k jaith (husbands brother) ka baita hy. I have NEVER EVER seen him in my life. Sirf name sunna hy mai nay unka. Woh Pakistan mai rehtay hy aur mai UK mai ho. aj kul Woh yaha UK student visa p aain hy aur 4-5 din tuk hamary gher ain gay ham say milnay. Shayad 1-2din tuk hamary pass rukain.
Meray parents ko lerka and unki family dono pasand hy. Even meri khala unki bahot tareefain kerti, but mai unk baray mai itna nahe janti because mai nay kabhi kesi lerkay say baat cheet nahe ki. even meray apnay cousins say mai sirf salam doa kerti ho dats all. Mai nay apni family sy bhi lerkay ki bahot tareefain sunni hy. Meray parents nay lerkay ko yaha bolaya hy ta k ham aik dosray ko daikh sakay and thori bahot baat cheet ho jay. Agar dono ki taraf sy han hoi to he baat agay berhay gi.
Meri khala say bahot attach hy woh n khala unhay apnay baitay ki terha samjhti hy so khala nay un say meri baat ki thi n khala ko unki baato say aisa laga jaisay woh is rishtay ki baat ko agay berhana chatay hy. Meri khala unhay meray baray mai up-dates daite rehti hy so i think woh kafi khuch jantay hy meray baray mai. Shayad issi liy rishtay ki baat agay berhai hy unho nay. Evene k unk liy aik aur rishta ayya but unho nay reject ker dia aur apnay parents say kaha k jaha meri baat chal rahi hy wohi sahi hy i mean how can he do this? Woh muj sy milay b nahe abi tuk so kaisay aik rishta reject ker k meray liy han kerdi?
Meray zehun mai to bahot say sawal a rahay hy
i am really confused
Anyway cut a long story short…Ab baat yeh hy k woh yaha annay walay hy khuch dino tuk but mai confuse ho k mai un say kaisy baat kero gi. I mean i hardly talk to my own cousins so i am not good at this
Please ap log meri help kero k mai un sy kaya baat kero. Meray pass maximum 2 days hogay unhay jannay k liy so aisa kaya kia jay in 2 dino mai???
Kaisay test kero unhay???
Meri GS ki lerkio sy request hy k please mujay khuch tips dain is baray mai.
Aur lerko say yeh sawal hy k agar ap is situation mai hotay to kaya expect kertay lerki sy i mean kaya ap chatay k woh ap ko 1st time mai he pasand ker lain???
Kaya qualities daikhna chatay app?
Asalam-o-alikam.
Hope everyone is okay here. Mai GS ki new user ho. This is the 1st time i am posting something. So please maaf ki jiay ga agar koi galti ker baitho to.
Actually meray liy aik rishta baija gaya hy meri khala ki taraf sy. Lerka un k jaith (husbands brother) ka baita hy. I have NEVER EVER seen him in my life. Sirf name sunna hy mai nay unka. Woh Pakistan mai rehtay hy aur mai UK mai ho. aj kul Woh yaha UK student visa p aain hy aur 4-5 din tuk hamary gher ain gay ham say milnay. Shayad 1-2din tuk hamary pass rukain.
Meray parents ko lerka and unki family dono pasand hy. Even meri khala unki bahot tareefain kerti, but mai unk baray mai itna nahe janti because mai nay kabhi kesi lerkay say baat cheet nahe ki. even meray apnay cousins say mai sirf salam doa kerti ho dats all. Mai nay apni family sy bhi lerkay ki bahot tareefain sunni hy. Meray parents nay lerkay ko yaha bolaya hy ta k ham aik dosray ko daikh sakay and thori bahot baat cheet ho jay. Agar dono ki taraf sy han hoi to he baat agay berhay gi.
Meri khala say bahot attach hy woh n khala unhay apnay baitay ki terha samjhti hy so khala nay un say meri baat ki thi n khala ko unki baato say aisa laga jaisay woh is rishtay ki baat ko agay berhana chatay hy. Meri khala unhay meray baray mai up-dates daite rehti hy :D so i think woh kafi khuch jantay hy meray baray mai. Shayad issi liy rishtay ki baat agay berhai hy unho nay. Evene k unk liy aik aur rishta ayya but unho nay reject ker dia aur apnay parents say kaha k jaha meri baat chal rahi hy wohi sahi hy i mean how can he do this? Woh muj sy milay b nahe abi tuk so kaisay aik rishta reject ker k meray liy han kerdi?
Meray zehun mai to bahot say sawal a rahay hy
i am really confused :(
Anyway cut a long story short..............Ab baat yeh hy k woh yaha annay walay hy khuch dino tuk but mai confuse ho k mai un say kaisy baat kero gi. I mean i hardly talk to my own cousins so i am not good at this :(
Please ap log meri help kero k mai un sy kaya baat kero. Meray pass maximum 2 days hogay unhay jannay k liy so aisa kaya kia jay in 2 dino mai???
Kaisay test kero unhay???
Meri GS ki lerkio sy request hy k please mujay khuch tips dain is baray mai.
Aur lerko say yeh sawal hy k agar ap is situation mai hotay to kaya expect kertay lerki sy i mean kaya ap chatay k woh ap ko 1st time mai he pasand ker lain????
Kaya qualities daikhna chatay app?
Thank you.
You need to know what has been told about you to him already.
This will give you idea what he liked so much to reject other rishta.
Sanjeeda, dont worry, just relax. be yourself, aur ghabrana nahin. jo zehan mein sawaal aeay pooch laina. waisay tou aik mulaaqat mein bhi kaafi cheesain pata chal jaathi hein. I am sure you will know many things about him in 2 days.
Allah se duaa maango, inshAllah He will take care of you.
Wish u all the best :k:
PS: agar larka passand na aaya tou parents ko saaf saaf bata daina, darna nahin.
HOW??? yahi mera sawal hy k kaisay pata kero mai un k baray mai? kaya sawal kero un say mai jis sy muajy unki personality ka pata chal sakay?
**Or should i give him a questionaire to complete LOL
Would he be okay with a woman working after marriage?
Is he a social person or prefers reading a good book over outings?
What does he do when he gets angry at something.
etc etc.
Ask questions that matter to you most. What do you want your future husband to be like? What interests you and what would YOU find acceptable and unacceptable traits in a husband. Think about those and try to gear your questions towards those.
Asalam-o-alikam.
Meray zehun mai to bahot say sawal a rahay hy
i am really confused :(
Anyway cut a long story short..............Ab baat yeh hy k woh yaha annay walay hy khuch dino tuk but mai confuse ho k mai un say kaisy baat kero gi. I mean i hardly talk to my own cousins so i am not good at this :(
Please ap log meri help kero k mai un sy kaya baat kero. Meray pass maximum 2 days hogay unhay jannay k liy so aisa kaya kia jay in 2 dino mai???
Kaisay test kero unhay???
Meri GS ki lerkio sy request hy k please mujay khuch tips dain is baray mai.
Aur lerko say yeh sawal hy k agar ap is situation mai hotay to kaya expect kertay lerki sy i mean kaya ap chatay k woh ap ko 1st time mai he pasand ker lain????
Kaya qualities daikhna chatay app?
Thank you.
Apnay zehan main jo sawal hain un main important onez ko alag ker lo, woh lazmi poochna,
yeh zaroor poochna key us ki ideal larki kesi hai ?
yeh bhi note kerna woh tumharay parents key samnay us ka attitude kesa tha ?
agar tum larkon sey baat kernay main itni comfortable nahi ho to kum bolna, lakin important sawal zaroor poocha, probably tumhain is meeting key baad aur faisla kernay sey pehlay dobara sawal-o-jawab ka chance na milay.
us key janay sey pehlay tumhain sab jawab mil gaey to theek, tum ney faisla ker lia to theek, lakin agar faisla nahi kia aur sawal bhi baqi hain to ussey apna number dey dena. most likely woh khud hi mang ley ga.
just be urself and tell him a lil bit about u and let him ask questions and watever he asks u ask him similar questions too ... ask him about his hobbies and wat hes interested in and wat else does he do for fun ... andd umm also just see how he is arnd u and ur family and if he treats everyone with respect and courtesy that'll probably tell u more than any amount of questioning can
OMG!! Mera dimaagh ghoom gaya... I can't read so much Roman Urdu, someone translate please.
I feel the same way. So I do see you responded , but I do not see any translation , would you like to give me an executive summary of the first post please , now since you understand the issue at hand ?
just be yourself and please dont try any bollywood or Hasina Moin's stuff. Ask about his interests tell about yours. Two days are enough to know basics about the person specially when he will be staying at your place.
I feel the same way. So I do see you responded , but I do not see any translation , would you like to give me an executive summary of the first post please , now since you understand the issue at hand ?
Mirch Sanjeeda's aunt has brought her nephew's (husband's sides) rishta for her...Guy lives in pak...She lives in Uk...They have never met...She hardly talks to her own cousins... Her aunty loves the guy and treats him like her own kid...Her parents like him as well.....He is very close to her aunt so he knows about much more about sanjeeda than she knows about him...He is coming over to Uk on a student visa and will stay in her house for 2 days...her parents will agree to the rishta after they both said yes...She is asking about what questions she should ask the guy when she meets him to find out about what he is like as a person as she hardly knows him and these 2 days may be her only chance to get to know him before her parents ask for her opinion on the matter.
Oh yeah and guy had this other rishta as well which he rejected saying he wants to find out about what sanjeeda's family says. She is saying how can he say no to a potential rishta for her as he doesnt even know her.
Sanjeeda just be yourself as everyone else has said...I dont think you need a list of the question in hand to ask...Go with the flow...Talk to him as you woud to anyone else...He is just a guy I can understand you being shy and all but what is the worst thing that will happen? Unless you have got some sepecific questions I think you can tell alot by how a person communicates with others Just observe him for 48 hours straight lol Just joking!!!
I was reading some of the questions people have posted above and I kinda had a panic attack I have known my fiance all my life he is my cousin but in last 10-12 years we have only exchanged occassional Hellos and I have no idea what he thinks about any of these questions and I am curious now lol and I cant ask him because we dont communicate....Yes I still live in 18th century :-)
No use testing him at this stage. He is going to give the right answers to all your questions, because the rishta is still in process.
Just relax, and let him take the lead, if you are that confused. Better yet, since he is coming to your home, then very likely you will be in a group setting with other members of your family. Let them start a conversation, and then perhaps once the ice has been broken, you can take it from there. Just go with the flow and try to bring out his natural personality, rather than go for text book questions, because he will have text book answers for those.
so i think woh kafi khuch jantay hy meray baray mai. Shayad issi liy rishtay ki baat agay berhai hy unho nay. Evene k unk liy aik aur rishta ayya but unho nay reject ker dia aur apnay parents say kaha k jaha meri baat chal rahi hy wohi sahi hy i mean how can he do this? Woh muj sy milay b nahe abi tuk so kaisay aik rishta reject ker k meray liy han kerdi?