I am wondering when is a age a girl should start worrying about marriage? my close cousin dear to me is 28 and my aunt and my mom are pushing her for marriage. I am trying to help her find someone but it is hard to find anyone at the same time a good person. what do you feel is the best way to deal wtih such pressures.
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Depends on the situation. Is your cousin open to getting married? Is she open to trying out things like matchmakers etc where she could get to meet a potential person? Is she in a community where there are eligible people to her liking? And many more factors to cionsider given the lack of info in the original post. But if she is being pressured and not into it; she should try and make that clear to her mom and pray for the best.
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You should encourage her to ignore such pressures, get out there and enjoy life! That way she isn't feel depressed from things and she may potentially meet mr right if shes socializing.
My mother got married at 31 and my SIL to be is also reaching 30 and unmarried. Although I'm sure she has family pressures she ignores them and makes sure she makes the most of things. It doesnt matter if you marry at 18 or 40. Its just got to be the right person.
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28 is already too late. call me old fashioned but woman should be married by 24. Plus the older she gets, i hear the rotten the eggs get.
28 is already too late. call me old fashioned but woman should be married by 24. Plus the older she gets, i hear the rotten the eggs get.
You and your crazy replies. Gosh!
To the OP, I think if your cousin is open to rishtay and just not finding the right person, i don't see how its her fault. She should enjoy her single life and keep the search on. She should marry the right person, not the next person who comes with rishta.
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my bro. is looking, why ain’t anyone taking his hand? 
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I don't know if you guys believe in evolution, but the most important factor that determines the quality of a female partner is her reproductive success. Age is one of the leading factors that contribute to reproductive success, with younger ages being better. Women can successfully reproduce very young, as early as early teens, but the youngest age of first of marriage begins at about 17.
Every year a woman delays marriage, several more desirable (younger) women pass the threshold age. So, if you're 18, you're competing with 17 years olds. If you're 28, you're competing with 17-27 year olds. Since your competition increases with age, you must lower your standards to make a partner choose you over a younger female. In short, the longer women delay marriage, the more likely it is their eventual marriage partner will be less desirable.
I don't know if you guys believe in evolution, but the most important factor that determines the quality of a female partner is her reproductive success. Age is one of the leading factors that contribute to reproductive success, with younger ages being better. Women can successfully reproduce very young, as early as early teens, but the youngest age of first of marriage begins at about 17.
Every year a woman delays marriage, several more desirable (younger) women pass the threshold age. So, if you're 18, you're competing with 17 years olds. If you're 28, you're competing with 17-27 year olds. Since your competition increases with age, you must lower your standards to make a partner choose you over a younger female. In short, the longer women delay marriage, the more likely it is their eventual marriage partner will be less desirable.
yes thank you. thats what i meant by rotten eggs.
I don't know if you guys believe in evolution, but the most important factor that determines the quality of a female partner is her reproductive success. Age is one of the leading factors that contribute to reproductive success, with younger ages being better. Women can successfully reproduce very young, as early as early teens, but the youngest age of first of marriage begins at about 17.
Every year a woman delays marriage, several more desirable (younger) women pass the threshold age. So, if you're 18, you're competing with 17 years olds. If you're 28, you're competing with 17-27 year olds. Since your competition increases with age, you must lower your standards to make a partner choose you over a younger female. In short, the longer women delay marriage, the more likely it is their eventual marriage partner will be less desirable.
And this is the result of our flawed culture. Thank-you for propogating these lies, instead of having the courage to stand up against them.
17, depending on the country, can be really young for marriage.
17, in the States, is not old enough for marriage. It's not old enough for drinking. And it is JUST about old enough to drive your car alone, and even that, I think they need to repeal. It is definitely not old enough to have a low car insurance rate. 17 is when people experiment, and do stupid things. 17 is trying to figure out where to go to college, what career you want to have, and what city you need to move to in order to get that rolling. 17 is when your college applications essays usually read like some retard wrote them until you get your butt over to Princeton or Kaplan for review. 17 is where you're still taking the SAT, and unless you're one of the few smart kids out there, chances are you're bombing it, because you don't know what "Tangential" means, cuz you never paid attention in your classes and your teachers thought you all were worthless and didn't bother teaching it to you. 17 is when you still sit in a classroom in 11th or 12th grade, STILL don't know how to keep your behind still in your seat, and still don't know that talking to your friend while the teacher is talking is considered RUDE, and when you're still passing notes to your best friend like a friggin 7th grader.
Given that this is characteristic for most high schoolers, don't tell me 17 is when a girl should get married.
And this is the result of our flawed culture. Thank-you for propogating these lies, instead of having the courage to stand up against them.
17, depending on the country, can be really young for marriage.
17, in the States, is not old enough for marriage. It's not old enough for drinking. And it is JUST about old enough to drive your car alone, and even that, I think they need to repeal. It is definitely not old enough to have a low car insurance rate. 17 is when people experiment, and do stupid things. 17 is trying to figure out where to go to college, what career you want to have, and what city you need to move to in order to get that rolling. 17 is when your college applications essays usually read like some retard wrote them until you get your butt over to Princeton or Kaplan for review. 17 is where you're still taking the SAT, and unless you're one of the few smart kids out there, chances are you're bombing it, because you don't know what "Tangential" means, cuz you never paid attention in your classes and your teachers thought you all were worthless and didn't bother teaching it to you. 17 is when you still sit in a classroom in 11th or 12th grade, STILL don't know how to keep your behind still in your seat, and still don't know that talking to your friend while the teacher is talking is considered RUDE, and when you're still passing notes to your best friend like a friggin 7th grader.
Given that this is characteristic for most high schoolers, don't tell me 17 is when a girl should get married.
17 is also when girls in Niger are getting married off. So I guess the earliest age of marriage is 17. I'd post the link to the source but apparently I have too few posts.
I make no mention of the United States or any other specific location. And by the way, in the US it is possible to get married at 16 with parental consent, and at 18 without parental consent.
Also, I said marriageable age BEGINS at 17 (which is true), not that you SHOULD get married at 17. I only state this is the age you have least competition at, and naturally, the competition grows as you age. I try to impart as little personal opinion as possible, but here it is: "The best marriage strategy for females is to balance their desirability for marriage which decreases with time, with their own preparedness for marriage which increases over time."
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Do you live in Niger? I certainly don't.
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^ No, but I suppose single 17 year olds looking for marriage do.
^ No, but I suppose single 17 year olds looking for marriage do.
So why should the rules the 17 year olds who live in Nigeria be imposed on desis living in Pakistan and abroad?
So why should the rules the 17 year olds who live in Nigeria be imposed on desis living in Pakistan and abroad?
Niger, not Nigeria. (Two different countries)
I'm ethnically desi, but consider myself a citizen of the earth. In the 21st century, all markets are globalized, even the marriage market. I wouldn't put it beyond desis to marry Nigeriens, considering also, that the majority of them are Muslim.
Of course, almost all cultures emphasize youth as a desirable quality in women (including Pakistani and Western). We don't need to consider Niger alone to arrive at that conclusion. The relevance of Niger is limited only to their position as having one of the lowest figures for age at first marriage.
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i think it varies..u cant impose these things on others..its nobody's business..maybe its just not the right time for her
28 is already too late. call me old fashioned but woman should be married by 24. Plus the older she gets, i hear the rotten the eggs get.
Thats what Clomid and IVF are for.
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The earlier you get married, the more babies you will produce and thats not something ithe world needs right now.
There is no specific number. It shud depend more on the mental age both for guys n girls. When a person thinks that he/she can accommodate (full time) another person in their life that's the perfect age. US say pehlay plz try 2 resist all kind of pressures. Life1 is already piled up with ranting/dissing spouse/inlaws threads.
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A man has to be financially stable in order to marry
If hes thrown into the marriage not only he will have pressure but the girl too will suffer!!!!