I find some of the repsonses here hysterical - your eggs will go bad??
HA HA HA. We are not hens!
Anyway regardless - yes age does play a factor. But does anyone actually think 17 year olds are attractive? You know apart from sleezy old men!
A women - or girl should I say has barely found herself at that age, her personality, how to dress well, what she wants out of life and even say a partner. She still has so many things to do - education being one. A career being second - (if thats what she wishes to do)
And having to pop some out (kids) is the last thing she needs. As she is still one herself!!
In addition - saying that you are competing - Life is not a race!
Marriage is something that has to be thought out. To feel ready for it and prepared for it. For the responsiblities and commitments you are to make. To respect another individual and to care for them and expect the same respect in return.
In addition - as for our eggs - I have noticed alot women who are of asain descent tend to continue to have children well into their late 40s - from what I have seen in Pakistan and the general community.
Marriage is part of life. Emphasis on the PART. lol.
As for your Cousin. If she feels she is ready then fair enough. These things take time. And I wish you the best in your search. I hope Allah Thallah has someone wonderful for her. Ameen.
I don't know if you guys believe in evolution, but the most important factor that determines the quality of a female partner is her reproductive success. Age is one of the leading factors that contribute to reproductive success, with younger ages being better. Women can successfully reproduce very young, as early as early teens, but the youngest age of first of marriage begins at about 17.
Every year a woman delays marriage, several more desirable (younger) women pass the threshold age. So, if you're 18, you're competing with 17 years olds. If you're 28, you're competing with 17-27 year olds. Since your competition increases with age, you must lower your standards to make a partner choose you over a younger female. In short, the longer women delay marriage, the more likely it is their eventual marriage partner will be less desirable.
Erm if you want to talk about evolution you should know that it's the male species who are scrutinised by their female counterparts when it comes to reproduction. In the animal kingdom a male will mate with any female he can get...but the females are a lot more picky. Besides reproductive fitness is measured by the number of offspring you have...so by your theory a 17 year old with 5 children will be a more attractive marriage option than a 28 year old with no children. ;)
Erm if you want to talk about evolution you should know that it's the male species who are scrutinised by their female counterparts when it comes to reproduction. In the animal kingdom a male will mate with any female he can get...but the females are a lot more picky. Besides reproductive fitness is measured by the number of offspring you have...so by your theory a 17 year old with 5 children will be a more attractive marriage option than a 28 year old with no children. ;)
Marriage is a social contract. Attraction is a biological phenomenon, shaped by evolution. I'd like to think desi marriages are based on attraction, but who am I kidding.
Women are more selective, but there is significant competition among females too. And yes by my theory, a 17 year old regardless of her offspring is more attractive.
Forget evolution, it's a bloody cultural phenomenon! Both guys and girls in our culture get married off so young that the older you get, the less choice you have. It's so obvious.
Personally, I don't think it is right to emphasize on getting married at the right age, it should be all about getting married to the right person.
Re: having babies, technically everything is possible. But do you really want a teenager when you are 60 years old?
The earlier you get married, the more babies you will produce and thats not something ithe world needs right now.
Not always the case Miss-I know girls who've got married at 18 and not been able to concieve for a few years (at the age of around 25) whereas I also know girls who've married at 30 who go onto have a baby the following year after marriage a (no real delay in concieving).
I got married at 22, whereas my mother was married off at 16 (shocking I know). I have family members who are near to 22 now and noone has even batted an eyelid about the fact they are not engaged yet. Times are changing, attitudes are changing too amongst a lot of familes in the desi community (not all though). I really believe it's up to the individual. Say a women wants to have a mid-large family and wants to be a young mum and also 'space the pregnancies out' then of course it would make sense for her to get married say in her early 20s to achieve this. Horses for courses-everyone's needs are different.
I don't think 28 is old at all-if your cousin is ready for marriage or feels it's something that will benefit her then you should support her ( in my humble opinion) but if she doesn't want to get married then that's a different ball game.
Everyone gets married eventually, unless they choose not to...It's not about WHEN you marry, it's about **who **you marry. No girl would want to marry a guy like Sandals...17 or 40- simply because girls look for long term, healthy marriages with guys they know will find beautiful at whatever age. They want to marry gentlemen- a product of Adam and Eve-not people who think they are animals whose pruspose in life is to be a baby producing machine .
Ugh I was just begininng to live my life and make my own desicions at 17. Frankly, I'd still rather wait until I gradute but it's not my desicion....
A seventeen year old girl is more malleable, you can bend her towards what you want her to be, take away her individuality. That is probably what makes them more attractive. No offence to anyone though!!!!
30+ is really pushing it. I think men and women just rate women's attractiveness differently. There isn't a single woman I know whose judgement I can fully endorse. Personally, I think, sure ladies in general are beautiful at all ages, but comparatively, 18-21 is optimum.
^But that's mostly the fake beautiful, the one that the media has made out to be the only form of beauty. I think that 26-32 is the best because that's when they get that confidence to be true to themselves.
well, to be honest, there isnt really "right" age to get married. u get married whenever u feel like ur ready to take the responsibility. i do understand your cousin's situation though. desi ppl have this mentality that if a girl isnt married before she hits the mid-20's, there's something wrong with her... pathetic! anyways, tell ur cousin to hang tight. its HER life, not her mom's or her aunt's. getting married is a HUGE decision and she should only decide to get married when SHE feels that she's ready.
good luck! :)
Everyone gets married eventually, unless they choose not to...It's not about WHEN you marry, it's about **who **you marry. No girl would want to marry a guy like Sandals...17 or 40- simply because girls look for long term, healthy marriages with guys they know will find beautiful at whatever age. They want to marry gentlemen- a product of Adam and Eve-not people who think they are animals whose pruspose in life is to be a baby producing machine .
AGREED. people should get married when they are emotionally, mentally and physically ready to someone who respects and loves them for them, anytime in life.