You need to speak up and speak up fast so that your parents can do some damage control. If your parents keep brushing off the other side’s family like this, they will eventually give up. There’s only so much disrespect people can take and the guy’s family will take it as if your side is not really interested. They have no idea that you really like this man so your parents’ attitude is somewhat understandable.
As for his sister, you said yourself that the sister is going through a divorce, so you should try not to take her attitude so personally. Sounds like she has a lot going on emotionally in her own life. Anyway, if you have your husband’s love and support, he probably won’t let his sister come in between the two of you.
I am leaving for Eid holidays tomorrow. Will get home in the afternoon and since my dad told his dad to call at Eid day they are gonna call the day after I arrive.
I feel stressed out. I need to discuss things with them before his dad calls in the evening of Eid day.
I have no clue of how to start talking to them on this matter. If I take up the discussion they might be provoced and then start discussing about their trust to me etc etc since I am living alone here and then they'll start making stories on that I am having an affarir etc etc etc!!!
I have spoken to my sister and she told me that my father is kind of paniking cuz he doesnt know this family. On the other hand he isnt really givning them any chance to come over and meet them to get to know them. My mother is being more understanding though. She is saying that she wants to give them a chance since she could feel that I am interested in the guy.
My brother who is 5 yrs younger than me is very negative about me moving to another country and is saying that he does not accept me getting married to this guy. Since he is the only son, my parents value his opinions though he is quiet immature!
My oldest sister is positive and her opinion is also valued a lot at home.
Here I am. The one who wants to get married and I feel that my opinion isnt being valued at all. If I tell them that he is the one I want to get married, they will just start a long discussion instead of valuing that opinion and decision of mine.
So I have no clue of how and what to say. And that also within 24 hours so his dad doesnt get a cold shoulder again for the 3rd time. This will be the 5th call from his side!
