Marriage in Jeopardy, need advice!

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Re: Marriage in Jeopardy, need advice!

@Twinklestar

Is this girl you are engaged to a relative or family friend? what was the reason that your sister gave you false information ? Families presssuring their sons to marry abroad happens quite often. Usually it’s an attempt to find someone submissive and dutiful towards inlaws. Sons and daughters are responsible for taking care if their families. Too often families want subpar daughter in laws Bc they don’t someone sharp and then want her to SERVE them. Where are your parents and family living ? Remember if you find a spouse to your liking will she get along with family and fulfill their expectations?

Yes I believe this was my case, I did want someone more educated who could work part time if needed. I don’t know why my sister was so off but I certainly didn’t expect this. This girl wasn’t a relative my sister and mom only met her two times before advocating so strongly for her. I am sure if I find love in the future these other issues can be dealt with. A good Muslim woman will respect my family if she loves me but I already know its MY responsibility to take care of my parents. Men and women should take care of their in laws out of love and respect for their partner anyway.