Marriage in Jeopardy, need advice!

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Re: Marriage in Jeopardy, need advice!

@St1ngR

Whats the Islamic basis for this? As though the unhappy party isnt going through emotional pain right now and later? Why do you assume this is any easy decision on my part. I get becoming defensive about the girl but I haven’t been deceptive or used her or other bull evil people out there do. In some cases its better for the girl now instead of later.

@St1ngR

I think some people on this thread dont understand family pressure. Perhaps you dont have a family that insists you get into a marriage especially if you’re close to them. Like I said I wasnt against family finding someone but I was mislead to even spark my interest in her. And then told we wouldn’t meet till after the nikkah, a definite attribute of Jutt Punjabi culture. If these things were made clear at the beginning trust me it would end then.

You can’t really hide behind the jutt punjabi culture. Jutt punjabi culture also teaches you to be a man and take responsiblity of your actions. It doesn’t matter, how much your family pressured you (I understand the family pressure), once you are an adult, you have to shoulder the responsibility.

If you hurt someone, court will not take it as an excuse that you were pressured by your family. Maximum it will do is, to hold your family equally responsible, but will not let you off the hook.