Re: marriage for females...isnt it a bit overrated?
Ofcourse life gets more complicated. Marriage is just another step in life. It should be a choice, not just an expectation. If you as a woman are ready to make that step and handle all the responsibilities that come along with it then go for it. But every family, husband is different. I think for many girls in our culture the actual Shaadi day is a really big deal. Plus the ceremonies, the gifts, the attention, the parties all seem so fun and glamorous. Most girls wonder, when will that happen for me and how should I plan such and such event? It's a big build up and then when you're no longer the 'new dhulan' and reality hits you have to deal with life. That is the real issue. Girls often romantisize the notion of marriage.
If you've been pampered and spoiled your whole life, then it would make sense to find a husband who can do the same for you. Some wives become women of leisure. But the majority of us have been trained practically from our teen years how to cook, clean and take on responsibility. The fact of the matter is that you can buy frozen dinners, you can hire a nanny, you can have a maid. It's your choice. Being a wife is not a life sentence of servitude and martyrdom. But as a wife you decide what are your priorities. Do your kids come before your need to have a career? Can your husband split the housework?
Here in NYC I am often asked if I have a nanny and given puzzled looks when I say no I'm a stay-at-home mom and have never had a babysitter for our 3 yo daughter. Many women here- whether they work or not- have a nanny and use their free time to shop, have their hair done and lunch with friends. Marriage is just another status thing. It's like they acquired a good husband, a good diamond ring, cute kids, nice apartment. Being the wife of Mr.So and So is also important in our culture.