since kids we’ve been hearing married ladies like our maamis and chaachis say stuff like “life before marriage was so much better” but with all this hype around shaadi in our culture u think, “really is it?” specially when u’re pulling an all nighter for a midterm or project or something u think if i was married i really would not be doing this at this hour 
i have seen some of my close friends get married recently and seriously after the initial period of excitement or whatever its just another routine…the only difference is ur responsibilities increase exponentially specially if u continue working and overall life just becomes more demanding and u have commitments to ur new relations which is a huge responsibility…and once you have kids then literally say goodbye to everything but running after the kids, its a 24/7 job! then the kids start going to school and that’s like one huge huge huge responsibility.
you’re answerable all the time and have something to do all the time, no free time. imagine a day managing everything. one needs to be totally physically and mentally present every single minute. not that they ever complain but looking at the halaat of my friendz and where they are heading my mindset which before was like marriage is cool is now totally motivated to focus on grad school than anything else coz like i reckon there’s no real point in getting married early one shud take their time araam se.
also…like when u’re not married it doesn’t really matter if ur room is not clean, if ur closet looks like a warzone, if u leave ur food plate on ur study table for the night, if u are not dressed real prim and proper, if u sleep at weird hours, go out with friends or cousins on spontaneous plans, waste the weekend on the net on gupshup, talk to a friend or cousin on the phone for two hours straight, watch tv at 2am, go out and have something by yrself that u like for dinner or a snack, spend ur money wherever u want, travel out of town, bla bla
i know this stuff is not so important or necessary to lead life…but it involves a change of mindset that one needs to make…which is not a big deal but its like you’re no mare the carefree wanderer…i and most of my slowly diminishing number of unmarried friends are so used to leading such completely erratic and crazy abnormal lifestyles, me even more so coz of my college stint in amreeka…and even now that i live with my parents they let me do whatever i want n never put any restrictions on me at all and im not even expected to do anything at all around the house like cook or clean etc…everything is automatically taken care of from clothes to food to cleaning bla bla that i’ve become a total lazy bum…and a totally spoilt demanding brat…if i’m angry i even take out my anger and throw all kinds of tantrums like i wana eat this and not eat this bla bla (my cousins reckon i’m making up for yrs that were spent away from parents in college lol)…my parents are extremely caring and r always there to take care and just give give give everything… after marriage its like YOU are the one who has to take up the role of the caretaker and your parents and siblings are not going to be there to cushion you. your hubby will be there but still you’ll have to be independent emotionally in many many ways…
yeah everything comes with time, necessity is the mother of invention, where there’s a will there’s a way etc etc…but still! i really feel like females in their early and mid twenties need to focus on their careers and social lives and just enjoy their present than get fixated on the marriage issue…thats actually quite unhealthy…coz eventually most of us are going to get married anyway and these really are the last few golden years of our lives…we’re so gonna look back at these times with nostalgia…
true that after marriage your life is going to take a settled direction, you’ll have someone to share everything with & all that and with responsibility comes satisfaction (btw is this what they say to cheer up overworked married females coz sometimes i think its jus one of those dialogz )
but at the end of the day its just…more responsbility…or atleast thats what it seems…
