Some Individuals will decide “I should marry first , as no life without Wife/Husband”.
Others Opt for Career , saying if one will not having good Income and Good Career Opening cannot Enjoy Good life ?
It Could be recommended for MEN/BOY that they should Pursue for Career First , then should proceed for Marriage .
But for Women Most of the People will Say , She should Carry on Studies and Go ahead with Good career Search , But should DO Consider Proposals and Offers , If some one is asking for Her Hand.
(As Her Life is AGE SENSITIVE).
if talking about women. I think it depends on the type of career. If lets say i want to become a lawyer or a doctor. It will take long time until i am completely done. so in such case i would go for marriage in the middle and then keep on further with the studies. And ofcourse the person i get married to should NOt have any problems with it :)
both, at the end of the day though, its you rmarriage that ultimately maes you happy ( a successful one of course) not your career, you can have all the money in the world, what good is it if you have one to share it with , or no loved ones around....id prefer a husband over lots of money,,however it doesnt mean i dnt value a career life. they both equally important, but if i had to prioritise, family comes first.
also,.marriage is a requirement islamically isnt it..i dnt think we will get swaab for not getting married in favour of earning,...
Me and my husband are both in med school and this topic runs across my mind many times. I would like to be able to balance both having a family and career. I cannot stay at home all day and my husband understands that. I have always been very goal and professionally career oriented and having no career would be horrible for me. However, having no family would also be devastating for me. Life is about balance and i'A I pray things will work themselves out.
'Age sensitivity' is bollocks, unless you are stuck in a desi community and are poked daily.
Everybody should focus on their education and career first, you should always be in a position to support yourself incase something goes wrong. Getting married might be a more convenient option for some, but risk management is very important. If there is a proposal that you wouldn't want to miss, then mutual agreement on completing your education first or achieving some important milestone in your career might be an option worth considering.
^ I agree, education first imo unless u really do believe u can balance the two (not just cos ur parents want u to hurry up cos ur getting ‘old’ )
It’s not easy tho, I’ve heard of many girls falling pregnant accidentally within a yr of marriage and of course education goes down the drain, couples fighting over housework etc cos they are both stressed from revising for exams, coursework etc. or hubby being under too much pressure not being able to afford bills or rent cos he is struggling working part-time and studying or not being able to pass his exams cos he has the added pressure of wife/family to take care of (and also the other way around). It can work if u have a lot of family support but defo would not be the ‘ideal’ way for me anyway..
I think it depends on different factors. In certain industries/sectors it makes life easier in regards to work/life balance if you are single and can commit loads of hours at the drop of a hat for say presentations, going off abroad etc etc. In these sectors I say its important to have your career in place before getting married.
However in some sectors you can easily fit in marriage and careers which if you are marrying a supportive person means you can get married, build a career and a family around the same time.
I graduated from uni, got engaged, started building my career and got married...and I'm still building my business now. I have the support of my husband if I need it, hes still a student working too and it's worked out well for us.
^sorry, Sara, b/c has a surprisingly high fail rate. I conceived twice on it. Turns out meds like sudafed, antibiotics, and a whole host of others renders birth control absolutely useless.
I would recommend that women work if possible before marriage. It provides security and a sense of self-confidence.
I thnk one should enter marriage prepared for a child at any time for that bc to fail..cz when its in your kismet to have a child, anything can happen. If they are so staunchly against children at a certain time....then best not to marry then. You can't fight fate.
I agree completely... if you aren't in a position to have children, then wait for marriage - don't have them and leave them for their grandmother or a nanny to raise.
if one is not able to support children even then it is good to have a wife at your side just don't have children, it is easy, just have a mutual understanding built up between urself and herself.
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