Marriage First or Career First?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Feel sorry for u :(

am so happy i dont have such a materialistic Approach :)

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If I had the choice and if my family members wouldn't force me into a marriage, then I'd definitely choose career first!

I always liked to learn something, even when I was still growing up. Most girls around me dreamed about love and shaadi or boyfriends, things like that, but I was more interested in the next book coming out or busy finding more books on a topic that interested me, in my dreams I would become very successful writer one day, with perhaps a nice job to support my writing if necessary.

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obviously career!

but some people believe ke dolat aurat ke qadmon se aati hai :chai:

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Both first - yourself last

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Waw , Ambitious guy!!!!!, You have very nice tendency.......... writting.
but have not told about what type of writting you will prefer, Novels , peotry , Articals for Newspapers ...... ?

Regarding marriage or career priority I think one should keep balance among them as both have its own importance.

But a question that trigered me for Posting this thread on GS is that , In case one needs to sacrify one (Career/Love or Marriage) for other , then what should be prefered ?

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In my opinion a woman would be stupid for leaving her education mid way and getting married. What if the marriage doesn't work out? She must be educated enough (degree holder) to be able to pursue a decent career. As for men I don't see why a 24 year old guy would be dying to get married? If they are not stable enough how are they going to have a decent life. People who say money doesn't matter bla bla bla are all talk. Lets be honest if there's no money or limited money you can't have a decent life. Pyar ka achar koi nahin banata. A guy and girl must wait till they have a decent career. Another problem with Pakistanis is that if the uncle is 35 years old he wants to get married to a 20-23 year old which means that women are able to just finish their education or are mid way.

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It's true, girls, finish your education first. Try not to let your family force you into a marriage with lies like "it's oké, you can finish the rest of school after marriage", because believe me, after marriage, your husband will definitely force you to quit school and if you will refuse to quit school for him, he and his family will make your life more miserable until you do stop your education for him.

So never ever give up your education for a husband and don't believe any family member who promises that you can finish school after marriage, because that's a lie.

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You are right , But if She needs to Sacrify career for Some VERY GOOD "rishtha" , what should she do.?

ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.

Money do matter , But , Only money is also not every thing, So visionary Balance is required.

In societies like Pakistan or in communities of Pakistanis/Indians this Tendency is very dominant , due which youngsters get confused regarding the question, CAREER FIRST OR MARRIAGE FIRST?

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Its better for 24 yrs old to Get married than Commit Zina...

Alot of u seem to be concerned abt financial problems ... I think u will never be in perfect position to get married, I think Degree is Important for guy... Work hard get ur Degree soon, Dont worry if u have enough savings or not, Personally i dont mind gettin married even if am jobless as long as i have a degree. If gal is Studying and doesnt wana get married, she shldnt be forced.

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How can one be jobless & want to get married. You dont have to have top notch job but at least a job to support your wife...etc...

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For that i dunt mind drivin taxi ;)

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to each their own line of work, but that wouldn't be job-less. You have a source of income.

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this means ... everyone whoz jobless shld think abt it,

By taxi i meant, i wud just find any job possible, deliver pizza's or work at minimum wage....
Some of my frndz r just lookin for perfect job and savings bfr they get into marriage.

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as i have mentioned before here, i went for extra career pathway, loosing the love of my life in the process.

according to my parents i wasnt ready even for engagement when i done first degree, even after masters and securing a job in the last semester. never had a time off after studies gone straight into professional life, now i think i should had a break then. after losing her, i moved to another country, focused more on career as i didnt have anything else in life. done another masters and moved to top companies with good bucks, bought a family house in london even i wasnt married living alone, so i made sure i will have good salary, a nice house for posible future wife. it was 4 years aftey buying the house i finally got married in purely arranged marriage.

i am kind of perfect example for career first then marriage.

while its good to be stable before you get married, but i guess you miss the thing you see the couples married and then they build homes together, you miss that part. by this time you already quite matured in life and the fun in you is bit battered which you could have enjoyed when you are slightly younger, because of this your partner also suffer, cause i was more outgoing and after fun 5 years before my marriage, you dont take things and enjoy small moments in life as it does changes with your life and maturity.

perfect is to have first stable job after finishing the studies for guys.

Time Pass-August 2013
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^ while the outcome of struggling and building a life together may be very well worth it

actually living that life and going through those struggles is extremely difficult and takes a toll on the best of relationships