Re: Marriage falling apart 
I know that we often make the above highlighted comment in Nadz’s threads. But with Nadz, it’s just an issue of attitude adjustment and does not involve overly serious concerns such as the possibility severing a marriage. As someone else said above that the situation is likely to be more complex/delicate than it comes across in the posts. There has been a lot of emotional investment in the past 6 years and I’m not saying this reason alone is justification for staying in the marriage. Whether she decides to stay in the marriage…or whether she decides to get a divorce…whether she decides to have kids…or pursue a career…all of these decisions will have consequences. They require a lot of thought and the weighing of pros and cons…and it would be better if this is done without receiving a guilt-trip. Maybe taking a break might provide some relief and perspective, but I don’t think that the decision to end a marriage can be rushed. I also don’t think the advice given has necessarily gone to waste. Sometimes talking things out can help people figure out…at a later point…what they need to do. And hopefully Istikhara will give her some direction.