Re: Marriage falling apart 
Decisions based on emotions only and ignoring reality doesn’t lead to anything positive. God gave you a brain. Your parents made sure you got an education which hopefully gave you some critical thinking skills. Use them both. Always keep in mind that when it comes to deciding whether or not to have a child…you seriously need to consider the QUALITY of life that child will have in your house (physically and emotionally).
I think you know in your brain and in your heart whether or not you can trust your husband’s reply. You’re just in denial about it b/c it’s not the answer you WANT to believe. God helps those who’re willing to help themselves. You already know just how ridiculous your husband’s reply is. After all…why don’t both of you sit at home all day and depend on Allah to pay your bills and provide food. But no, even your husband realizes that money isn’t going to fall from the sky if he sits on his but* all day. What does he think Allah is going to do? Send a free nanny for the baby? 
He can say whatever he wants but you have the CHOICE to use your own brain! You give birth to a baby. You have no family support from your side. His parents don’t support you studying/working now…they sure as he*l isn’t going to change their tunes after a baby. Your husband will not consent to putting baby in daycare. So…who do you think will be at home with the baby 24/7?
If you’re going to be perfectly happy being a stay-at-home mom…there’s nothing wrong with that. But if you truly have your heart set on furthering your education and getting a job…don’t fool yourself into believing that having a baby is going to somehow help you with that.