Marriage falling apart :(

D1DatSmiles · August 23, 2012, 9:06pm

Re: Marriage falling apart

  I wish I knew what I'm waiting for :(

He’s said that many times. Unfortunately, sometimes only “love” is not sufficient to keep two people together

Anyone for.....

D1, I’m not even going to bother to tell you my two cents about why you SHOULDN’T care what other people are saying or will be saying. Nothing seems to be registering to you. It seems like this thread was created in order for you to have an outlet for your stress but your not actually looking for any answers from anyone here. There is always a “but” to every response you are given. You can’t really leave, don’t really want to stay, can’t find yourself a job, don’t want to try and stand up on your own two feet, don’t want people to talk, have no support… well then why are you asking for help? Have a child and be done with it. It won’t change your situation. You still won’t be able to pursue all of the things you want REGARDLESS of anything.

All I have been reading in this thread is med school, med school, med school. You have been with this guy since you were a teen and now you are 27? Didn’t it occur to you a year into your marriage, three years into your marriage, fine maybe even FOUR years after you got married and still hadnt started your studies that you were running out of time for med school THENN??? You are just realizing that you are out of time now and now you have started to think about other options for yourself??? What is the point, you won’t be able to even use that education anyway if your husband and his familly refuse to let you work regardless of if you had become a doctor. In my opinion, someone who really wants to commit to med school or anything else as demanding would of done it BEFORE marriage. It doesn’t make sense for you to even be thinking about it now because of your situation so maybe its time to let school go. If it was such a priority maybe you should of put more effort in that aspect of your life as opposed to fighting to be with your husband. You need to live with your choices and be and done with it.

Just accept the fact that you made some really bad decisions when you were younger, they will haunt you for life but learn to live with them and be at peace with what YOU HAVE now. No one can help you if your not willing to help yourself. All you need to focus on is being a much better example for those children that you will have, that part seems for sure.

It never occurred to me bcoz he always delayed, bcoz of the “money”. His priorities are obviously different than mine, so whatever he had saved was spent on things on his family. I kept waiting bcoz he always told me to wait a few more months. And, I’m still waiting…
You’re right, I did make bad decisions in life and probably have to live with them now. Either way, whatever way I choose, my decisions are gonna haunt me, no matter what. It’s just that I’m having a hard time figuring out which way is WORTH IT!
AHHHHH SOMEONE NEEDS TO INVENT A TIME MACHINE, I WANNA GO BACK 10 YEARS!!!

I have suggested to write all this before and his reply was it’s a “fazool” thing, go figure! He’s said it clearly that he doesn’t want me to study or work, but if I’m so depressed over it, I can do it on my own and he won’t be happy though. So, why let me do something and make me feel guilty at the same time?! Either let me do it with your heart, or let me do it but don’t break my heart by making me feel guilty!
Sometimes I feel like I’m wrong in everything, and he’s right. Am I really that bad for wanting to do something in life and keep my life balanced in every way?