Mabrook
February 9, 2012, 8:03pm
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Re: Marriage Counseling
@Niksik – absolutely true on all three counts…I just find that too many couples have one person that decides counseling isn’t going to help them for one reason or another
@Shak09 – have to agree with your observation as well. I’ve come across only a select few imams that are able to present our deen in a light that is not biased towards any one gender. And as I mentioned earlier…I don’t know if formal training to become an imam includes mediation or counseling education.
@Decent_6Chora – yes…we do live in denial. But this is confusing to me…what it is about a person that prevents them from improving their life? Why is “bearable” okay when it could be better?
@Afshi – that’s good to know Afshi. I’m glad that some folks are taking advantage of the resources available to them through the Islamic center. Btw…do you know if those couples that went to the imam were of Pakistani background?
And your friend…how did they sort out their problems if the husband refused to seek counsel?
@yourfriend – thanks for sharing…I was becoming a bit disheartened that there was absolutely nobody here on GS that had the experience. Do you mind telling us what you found was helpful in the counseling?
@Mabrook – how can you know that most marriage counselors have themselves been through a divorce? And why would this make any impact on someone’s decision to seek their help?
@Twinklestar – “you can be married or you can be right” ← I love this!
@Sara516 – very good question Sara…perhaps some where along the way in this thread we might find the answer.
@Reha – do you know of a particular example where an Imam was not helpful?
How i know it doesn’t matter but if i know someone himself/herself is divorced i won’t go to them coz when they couldn’t save their marriage whats the possibility they’ll save mine.