well the Imam is West Indian, and I’ve seen all kinds of couples/families see him. Some of them are Paksitani, some of them are arab and some are Bengali as well.
They usually come while I’m at halaqa and wait until the Imam finishes the class to talk to him.
As for my friend. . She first came to me to ask some advice. I advised her to talk to an Imam or a counsellor. That didnt happen. . So she talked to him herself and alhumdulillah he actually listened to what she was saying.
How i know it doesn’t matter but if i know someone himself/herself is divorced i won’t go to them coz when they couldn’t save their marriage whats the possibility they’ll save mine.
that’s quite interesting…I’m not sure that I agree with you.
but my original question stands…you have painted an entire community of professionals with a very broad brush…I simply want to know if your are making an assumption or if you have some statistics to back up your statement.
I have seen an Imam act as a marriage counselor, yes.
I felt the specific Imam chosen for the couple was wrong. Maybe they ARE helpful. But the one chosen was not.
His stance was that the female should try to ignore his transgressions because all he is doing is fulfilling his mother’s wishes. This is his responsibility.
People don’t know how to argue with that one. So they don’t.
Counselling between couple is a western idea where things can go really wild, guys can only talk sports.
Now “desis” all they can do is talk.. talk over tea … then talk again…
If any thing we need a shrink to shut them up.