This is a new thread jumping off the family or love thread…
I am in a very stressful situation.. my mother does not want me to marry the woman i truly love.. with reasons kind of known/yet unknown. I have tried to console those reason but to no avail and I have tried for some time now. I agree with the following statements..
3. Its a man’s job to fight for the girl’s honor and make his family unite on his decision. He has to step up to convince her parents as well. Its a no brainier, no wonder every family rejects the boys because he can’t even catch a nerve to talk the girl’s parents.
my statement: I have discussed this with my family numerous times.. heck even the rest of my family has.. including my sister..but mom wont budge.. dad is in a bind told me he cant go against his wife and yet he cant go against me either being i am his son …go figure. Her side was ok with it as long as my mom agreed so I am stuck in a rock and a hard place. Yes I have prayed alot and i still do…maybe i need to pray more?..
4. Family is family and the person I love becomes a part of my family. This is what families do and if they can’t accept it, you’ll just have to make them accept it.
I agree with this too.. if we were to go get married i am 100% sure she would be accepted no matter what.. because this has been the case with other family members.. actually alot of my family members have love marriages and are so happy .. but guess my mom does not want me to have the same…
also i read in this post that paradise lies with you mom.. i agree with this yet I disagree because if she is not accepting a muslim desi girl that I want to marry where is the good in that? I am sure in our religion it does not say don’t marry the muslim girl you want cause you mom says so. It is ultimately my decision on who I want to marry and if I truly love her and have told and showed my parents … then what is wrong with it? and who knows if moms choice will be right…what if I despise the girl and get a divorce from her like with in a week.. and yes that stuff happens i have seen it. Don’t know why parents dont get it.
I don’t really bank on the idea of an arrange marriage if I have something really good in front of me. What is the point of getting an arranged marriage if I am not going to be happy? I mean is the wedding for me or for my family to have something to talk about…
frankly I just want to go get married have other members in my family that will support me come and be my witnesses and start my life. But not everyone agrees with that too. Some of my family members have told me to do that and that is the only way..
people think it’s tough living in the ghetto try living as a desi.:ym:
so you spoud like a really responsible guy and if you like a muslim desi girl ..go for it ..i mean you have to respect your moms decision and take it into account but in the end it is youre choice..forgetting about the girl you love wont only ruin u but it will hurt her as well .