well, i have seen even love marriages going wrong too.... one is just darn lucky if they get a gr8 life partner... but the paki, desi mentality that men have is, she is not my equal and shud blindly listen to whatever i say. its everywhere and not just in my marriage. pakistani men can be the worst hubby's if you compare with our western counterparts. i myself have seen men changin their colors after love marriage. so its somethin we, women, can do nothin abt except fret and cry.. but men wudnt change. i m not sayin all marriages are like that but majority are.
After this and a few of your other posts, I'd be sympathetic towards you but given how you paint marriage as such a trap that even a terrible marriage is better than being single and women who divorce are "bad" in your books and you still want to bring a child into an abusive marriage, well, nothign will change your weird thinking or gross generalizations will it?