hope hubby dear dont read this....warna kamkah saar char jahain ga :P
well my story is so typical....my family knew his family but i never actually met him in person until after my parents approved his proposal (ofcourse with my consent)......
on the day of my engagment.....i cried like hell....even though i approved it but i was like no this cant be it......i cried and cried until my mom was like k if u dont want it we'll jst cancel it than i had to think abt it.....i was like i dont like anyone....i am going to marry someone at some poinlt in life and i was like WHY THE HELL i am crying? o_O ma cousins do tease me now for crying so much
we did talk and we out before marriage. Infact we went out to buy our wedding dresses. it was a bold step we both took as no one in his family or my family ever went out wid hubby-2-b/wife-2-be for their own shopping (yeh we got conservative family .....but i dont mind)
I never believed in love as such and specially love before marriage is totally lame....i always thought saving your feelings n ur love for that special person, who will come in ur life as ur husband & for which u'll b sure that u r not gona loze him, is a wise decision..... i would rather love a person who i am married to than love a person who i am not even sure if i'll ever get married to and feel guilty or scared that i am commiting any sort of sins than.....
Even after our marriage, i didnt feel "THE LOVE" from my side....i was little scared of all the "what ifs"......
'wat if i never fall in love with this person', what if things dont change for me?' .....but things did change in about few weeks and i felt i am in deeply love with him in about 3 weeks time....
family and frds thought it was a love marriage rather than arranged....infact my own bro in law still things that we both went through all this and used proper channel taakeh kesi ko kabar na ho aur koi zalam samaj humain alag na kar day :P lolssss......my husband always reply to such comments by saying "aarrry ap ko kis ne bata deya humara etna bara secret" and than he carry on by telling them how we ment in high school and blah blah blah (which is so not true)
married for 5 months now and alhumdolilah we both r loving it
ps: on a side note he do sometimes make me wonder ke is he the same person i fell in love with eeeeerrrrr.....but thats only when we fight :P and most of the time he is a sweetheat
Allah nazar na lagahe as janab ko nazar bohat jaldil lag jati hai....abi tareef karo aur abi humara WWIII start :s