hey! Please write your experiences with marrying in different sect.. My mil is a shia and fil is a sunni. My fiancee is neither. He follows everything sunni from kalma to fasting to prayer.. Except some beliefs. He is not very religious but prays 5 times mashAllah. Once we had to go out on 10 moharam on a dinner so his mother said to go after 11th. We fought alot but he told me he respects his mother alot and we will do what we want when married and independent.. He watches movies and songs in moharam.. So i want to know what it would be like.. My family is very much against shia’s and call them non muslims. So i wanna know.
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I hate mix chaat can never work unless you willing to give up ur believes
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Well if its such a big deal for you then don't marry him and make life easier for the both of you. Simple.
If you are going to marry him then obviously there are going to be some secular clashes and you should be ready to deal with them.
I think this should be fairly obvious to both you and your family. Learn to live and let live and stop labelling people as non muslims.
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you never mentioned this in your previous threads. don't you think it may have something to do with your mum not getting along with your in-laws?
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Its more like saying can a Democrat marry a Republican :D
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[note] Guys stick to topic and not suni / shia debate . Thanks . [/note]
Its more like saying can a Democrat marry a Republican :D
Case in point - Arnold Schwartzenegar (sp?) And Maria Shriver.
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Stoppit : well my in laws are not very practising or anything so it doesnt make any difference to my family. the only reason is the not meeting one. the only time there is a difference is the 5-6 days of moharram.
ive seen alot of ppl with very successful marriages and very bad ones too.
i know a couple and they are too happy. they respect each others beliefs and its fine.
but i want to know more stories:)
i dont think we shud fight over the khalifa. whatever happened has happened. i respect both alot.
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my mom is ok abt my mother in law being a shia .. bcz when the proposal came i told her and she said its nothing such things are personal and we r no one to talk abt them..
she loved them in the start i dont know if i told u or not. the problems started a bit later.
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i am not sure why the 4-5 days of muharram are that big of deal. if you don't go out for dinner on for a movie on one of those days, i am sure hell won't fall on you...
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Thank you Lusiiii
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my fiance is shia and im sunni. my family isn't very practicing but his family is. i don't mind attending majlises and giving up movies and music for the month of moharram..its not a big deal at all. i dont mind doing anything his way cuz its not like my family is very practicing anyways. my family didn't even have a problem with it cuz when we decided to get married and my parents hesitated a bit, i told them its not like you guys practice islam so much and they kinda agreed to it. his family on the other hand had a huge problem abt a sunni girl marrying into the family but his mom specially saw that it didn't kill me to attend a few majlises with them and show respect during muharram and they finally gave in :)
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I think most problems would occur if both families were really religious...........other than that I think everything should be OK
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Avoid confusion. DON'T MARRY OUTSIDE YOUR SECT.
hey! Please write your experiences with marrying in different sect.. My mil is a shia and fil is a sunni. My fiancee is neither. He follows everything sunni from kalma to fasting to prayer.. Except some beliefs. He is not very religious but prays 5 times mashAllah. *Once we had to go out on 10 moharam on a dinner so his mother said to go after 11th. We fought alot but he told me he respects his mother alot and we will do what we want when married and independent.. He watches movies and songs in moharam.. * So i want to know what it would be like.. My family is very much against shia's and call them non muslims. So i wanna know.
That's really weird that he would fight with you (or you meant fight with his mother) for going out on the 10th? It wouldn't have killed him to attend a few days later.... unless it was a major thing that will only be held after a very long time...
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Moharram is a sacred month, not just for shia's but for every Muslim. And it was considered sacred way before Karbala. So respect is needed doesn't matter what sect any one belongs to.
Case in point - Arnold Schwartzenegar (sp?) And Maria Shriver.
Oh my gawwd you slaughtered it. Its Schwarzenegger. I have been a fan all my life.
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true ! one must respect & do ahtram of the month of Moharram , it’s definitely not a shia sunni thing. I don’t now what point people try to prove by keeping weddings on 10th moharram and wearing flashy clothes , listening to music etc. Would you do all these things on the death anniversary of someone who was very close & loved by you ? I am sorry but if one can not have respect for the family of our beloved Prophet PBUH then I don’t think he is capable of respecting any other thing or anyone else.
and his mom was right on stopping him from going on 10th . Try to understand her reasons for stopping him.
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Pathetic!!! Forget shias / sunnis etc etc.... NO muslim would disrespect the month of Muharram, especially the first 10 days.... you said above that your in laws are not "practicing muslims"..... hellloooo, and you are??!!! Forget practicing your religion, you don't even have any respect for it!!! WHAT A JOKE!!!
Well said!!!