Re: Marriage and education
if you are taking about the whole community i would say you are making great generalizations here. where have you seen girls marrying even a psychopath who have a master's degree or is making good money? and you talk about Love? how can you ascertain about this love thing when you are marrying someone via an arranged marriage route? Love is, and realistically speaking can never be a deciding factor for an arranged marriage. if a proposal comes for any girl, how would she know at that time whether the guy would give her true love or not? only the things that can be determined, becomes the deciding factors to accept or refuse. and those things include your family, your qualification,your job, your personality, your standing in a social circle, the reputation of you and your family etc. and honestly speaking, i have never seen a family or a girl whose only criteria for a husband is Master's degree. it is always a mix of things, Master's degree can be one of the criteria but not the only criteria. and if someone is looking for a guy with a certain type of degree provided that the girl herself carries an equivalent degree, i think it is all fair if she refuses someone on that basis.
The person in question in this thread knew the girl for more than 3 years. They planned on getting married, but things didn't work out as the guy already got a Job and albeit a good one too while he was completing his bachelors. The guy decided to pursue his career instead of getting a loan and going for his masters just for show off's sake. The girl agreed to talk to her parents but then decided to end it on a basis that their future would be compromised as she does not see him making enough money to sustain a lifestyle that she requires in the future. She didn't even give the guy a chance based on his presume salary alone. This to me is the most absurd reason for breaking up a relationship. She didn't even put faith in the guy to talk to her parents about him.
She basically wanted to show her parents "engineers" and "Doctors" well in their 30s with past flings rather than a honest guy who truly loved her and wanted to be with her. Love again becomes a word merely on paper at this point. Now its basically you have people marry what you have instead of what you are as a person. If the guy in question had a huge house and a masters degree the girl would hesitate 1 bit in introducing him to her parents. But the lack of faith is extremely disturbing if you don't have a mere degree.
You can craft a good life for yourself even if you drive a taxi. But I guess people *only*care about what they see on the outside. The guy in question has moved on and is focusing on his career which he's certain to succeed in. But my question still remains, why, why would you not give someone a chance based on how much they make? Do you only see money when you see a man? What he has how much he makes? What kind of a way is that to judge someone? And you know this as well as I do that most of the parents in our community do this time and time again.