Why do people keep giving marriage an age? I.e. ‘this is too young’ ‘this is too old’ (esp for women)
Shouldn’t marriage be when a person is ready THEMSELVES instead of their age becoming an issue?
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yea shak i totally agreed with u on that hehe
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.. well yah age shouldnt matter but .. if your ready and you arent married then it's a problem i think and/or if she's too old then when ever shes ready maybe it'll be too late cuz maybe no other guy would wanna marry her then ... lol
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yes, but in our desi culture there is always an emphasis on the age of the girl, especially when it comes to marriage.
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Why do people keep giving marriage an age? I.e. 'this is too young' 'this is too old' (esp for women)
Shouldn't marriage be when a person is ready THEMSELVES instead of their age becoming an issue?
yupp I agree, marriage should be when a person is ready, society and culture has put emphasis on age and make a big deal out of it. I know 2 gorgeous girls, they're 34 and 36, they weren't ready for marriage in their younger years and rejected a lot of proposals, and as they started to age, they got lesser and lesser proposals, and now both are still unmarried, but they refuse to marry someone that they don't consider worthy.
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marriage is a HUGE responsibility! Until and unless someone is ready for marriage is best not to get married regardless of society says. Society will always talk about everything, period. There is no way you can satisfy everyone but there is one person you CAN satisfy which is yourself. Afterall no one knows you better than you! Sadly people think just because a girl is in her 30's she is no longer suitable for marriage. Which i think goes back to how jahil you really are. I still know of girls who are well into their 30s and are getting married happily.
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I know a girl who wants to marry her girls off as soon as they are “baligh”…
Marriage is best when two people are ready…regardless of their age bracket
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i heard there is a lot more probability of complications in childbirth after 35?? is that true?
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Reha, OMG that is sad we know people like that here too well have heard of them... its scary! poor girls i feel like they dont wont get the chance to experience girl stuff...
Nomi, yes and no, it highly depends on the mothers health, family genetics, environment... impossible? no! can you have normal kids absolutely!
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Oh you. Stop talking common sense. You're freaking out all the brown people.
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Reha, OMG that is sad we know people like that here too well have heard of them... its scary! poor girls i feel like they dont wont get the chance to experience girl stuff...
Nomi, yes and no, it highly depends on the mothers health, family genetics, environment... impossible? no! can you have normal kids absolutely!
Yes there is higher probability of problems with higher the age of woman at pregnancy. It is a known fact. Some women are avised not to get pregnant after age 35...or have genetic testing of the baby.
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Um, ok, doctor.
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Why do people keep giving marriage an age? I.e. 'this is too young' 'this is too old' (esp for women)
Shouldn't marriage be when a person is ready THEMSELVES instead of their age becoming an issue?
Spot on pal spot on.
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Well am 33 , still unmarried but if i had a chance to live it again , I would get marry in the age of 24 - man i was so ready by that time :)
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In our society, girls are considered ready to be married as soon as they are born 
whether or not they are ready… but girls should only be married when they are ready, when the situation is right for them to get married and when they are ready to take the full responsibility of their married life… Marriage shud be done once and the girl should be married only when they are able to accept the married life with full willingness and are ready to start the family…
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Age and marriage do seem to have such importance in our culture. I have heard people talking about girls that 'ghar behti boori ho rahi hain' when they are only really 24/25!
But when do you know that you are ready? Ie, everybody may think you are old enough, and you may even think you are the right age, but you still have lots of other things to achieve, for example completing degree, working etc. Should you just get married because you think you are emotionally ready and at the right age, but are not as of yet practically ready? Just so you are not considered old when you actually get married?
Also, Reha what does baligh actully mean? I think I have the jist, but what is the urdu translation?
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pyari, hehehe ;)
Um, ok, doctor.
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Well am 33 , still unmarried but if i had a chance to live it again , I would get marry in the age of 24 - man i was so ready by that time :)
I hear that often but i think its the society's pressure that makes one say that. Unfortunatly.
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How many desis even get to choose when they marry? It's usually the amma+abba/ entire brown population who keep pushing the deal to begin with.
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Blacko whoz pushing you :D:D:D ... except for me ofcourse ... i say you shlould shadi before u get buddhi and ur billi can be ur brides maid