Why do people keep giving marriage an age? I.e. 'this is too young' 'this is too old' (esp for women)
Shouldn't marriage be when a person is ready THEMSELVES instead of their age becoming an issue?
Ideally it should be like that but there are many reasons why age is such an issue for girls esp:
-Girls after the age of 25 have more chances of complications during pregnancy
-As the girl gets older,she gets used to of more independence and ultimately it becomes more difficult for her to adjust in a new environment+it becomes more difficult for her to lose her independence as is the case after marriage when they have to do jee huzoori of the hubby..
-Guys and their families look for younger girls so their options are reduced.
-no girl can ever say that"yes am ready for marriage now"..I don't think anyone is ever completely ready for marriage,whereas when u get married u can always handle the good or bad situations as they come regardless of age
there can be many more like religious+societal+cultural issues involved in it..
^ Agree with what you said. Again, I feel sorry for women because the twenties is the best time for them to have children and that's usually also when you're in school or working on your career. It's possible to do both but very difficult.
You're right, no one can say "I'm ready". I think people forget that our parents got married at an early age and "grew up" together, in marriage. Nowadays people put so much emphasis on me, and now, especially in the West. That's why people here get so many divorces, marriage doesn't compare to dating....well duh! That party only lasts a year or two at the most. After that you need patience, and have to work at it.
If there is no abuse, I think people should tough it out during the hard parts of their marriage. And yes women being independent has an effect too. There was an article somewhere about white couples who had been married for 40,50,60 years and the reasons they didn't call it quits and one of them was that the women needed the husbands to support them. They stuck it out because they had to and now they were ALL happy that they did.
So yeah, it's great that women have the option to leave abusive relationships but I see so many girls who are just immature and would leave just because it wasn't how they pictured it, how they saw it in some bollywood movie. Same with men, we're more immature too. Guys have no sense of being a man, taking care of your family. It's all about video games, or going out with your friends or whatever. Both sexes are more immature.
And divorce is not a good thing. It's the building block of society. Think about why people from our backgrounds usually excel more than gorays: it's because the kids have a strong family which helps and supports them. Imagine if your parents kicked you out of the house at 18. A friend of mine's mother had him during a fling when she was young and when he was about 16 she got married to some other guy and had another kid. He moved out and lived with his grandmother. Imagine feeling like your parents didn't want you.
