I live in the US and I honestly don’t know or heard of any girl born and raised in the US that got married before they atleast finished undergraduate studies… which takes them to age 22. MOST girls I know get married after graduate studies.
Yes there are those guys that get married to a super young girl from the homeland. No comment about that.
And I think it depends on the type of families you want to marry into. Because a Family that is highly educated themselves and really values education… appreciates a girl that is also as educated as they are and have no problem with her age. They want a girl that is of the same “intellect level” as they are and appreciate the fact that the educational system in the US is bizaarely long as compared to other systems in the world. A girl’s age easily gets higher and higher as her parents spend thousands upon thousands of dollars on her and she puts in all the time and effort to gain that degree.
If the guy’s sisters are getting a higher education and are not married themselves yet or got married at a later age (which is normal) … what the hell can they say about their own son/brother wanting to marry a girl that has some solid education behind her as well. Its honestly such a non issue from what I have seen… but it might also have to do with the type of families that we associate with. Most girls here are also marrying a guy of their own choice too as well… huge trend. Not necessarily someone they dated ..but someone that was introduced to them by a girlfriend or someone they met at college or work. So at the end of the day it is the GUYS choice that he want to marry a girl that is “older”.
Another point is that education is SUPER expensive here… like sickly expensive. Guy’s families are willing to wait for the girl to finish her studies so that her parents can foot that bill. Selfishness of them not wanting their son to take on that burden is common and expected. The guy and girl themselves are usually ok with this idea anyways since they themselves might not be in that financial position to pay for an education right away.
And because there are not a huge muslim population here as Chaachi has correctly pointed out… most families do not really have any objections to who their daughter/son has chosen to marry. Shuker kartain hain that their child chose an educated Pakistani Muslim. What more do you want living in a country like the US where pickens are slim???
Our family friends tend to start getting freaked out once their daughter hits 30 and there is no guy in sight and the girl herself is not open to the idea of traditional “rishtay”. Then it becomes stressful.
Totally agree.. I can’t even remember the last time we went to a wedding where the bride was under 23.. When they hear of a girl, the first thing the boys’ parents tend to ask is ‘what does she do?’ as in ‘has she finished her degree’, this tends to come before anything else.. the vast majority we know are getting married between 24-27 and that’s how the professional parents prefer it.. When I was 21/22 mine would say ‘no way’ to me getting married, even tho my mum is pretty religious and conservative. My brother’s fiancee is 24 and doing her legal training and even then my mum asked them both to wait till she had finished to tie the knot but they said no..