I’ve read some of your posts, and I have to say that your thinking is highly immature. You don’t know what Allah’s got planned for you and your life, and it’s highly illogical to wait the whole of your life for a guy so you can just sit at home and become a housewife. As someone else mentioned, people die. Divorces happen. And families aren’t always keen on supporting you and any potential children you may have after a mishap like that. Then what do you have to look forward to without any real life skills, besides roti pakana? Sure maybe it’s not the right thing to sit at home if you have professional degree and not do anything with it, but at least these women have some skills to fall back on if God forbid something bad happens in their lives. As well, these days, the income of 1 bread earner isn’t enough to support an entire family and so women DO have to go out into the work field to support their families. So if you’re going to just sit around by the time you hit 16, wait for a guy to sweep you off your feet and that’s it then I’m sorry you’re in the wrong. And trust me, I’ve seen plenty of girls like these who are now basically “whoring” themselves because what they expected to happen at the age of 16 didn’t happen and are not hitting the dreaded 25.
To find a soulmate at the age of 19 is settling. I’m sorry but that’s the truth. And your life partner can be found at any stage in your life, you never know. My cousin wasn’t able to find a rishta, and she wasn’t being picky at all either. Her other two sisters got married at a “timely” fashion. Instead of her just sitting around and waiting for a right guy to come along, she did her PhD, went overseas and there found a guy and now is happily married. Sure she didn’t get married at the right age and ofcourse people talked, but instead of settling she made something of herself and Allah had something planned for her that she didn’t know when she was 21.
There needs to be a balance between career and the house-life skills. Like Sara said, when the right guy comes along, people will do things that they never thought they ever would do just because they were at a different stage in life. If something works for you, if you have learnt your lessons by looking at someone else’s life, then good for you. But do not expect the same notion to work for you and don’t “advice” people to do the same thing because it may not suit their life and their experiences.