Marriage & Age

[MixedBeauty]

**somegroovychick-:**Please dont take this the wrong way, But is it true that if you hit your 30’s its harder to conceive? Or is it a myth?

@Deeba1234

Dunno who told you that but it’s not true. Also, it’s not as tho most of these ppl will prob never get married, if someone gets married later there’s nothing wrong with that at all in Islam, unfortunately in our culture (esp ‘back home’) a lot of ppl tend to twist things and make these free choices we have into something altogether much more rigid..

Each to their own, if some girls want to get married earlier good for them but it’s wrong to make out those who choose not to are going to be questioned by Allah about it. Islamically speaking marriage is recommended obviously but not even obligatory and being single past a certain age hasn’t been made haram **or even makrooh **(disliked). If it was such a big deal for girls to be married by a certain age surely there would be set rules for it (think how many thousands of other things are strictly regulated by Islam)..

Oh i see.. So many people say different things. I also heard your only allowed to say no 3 times. To a potential rishta. Obviously even if that was true i would never follow it because thats absoloutly ridiculous. I do however feel a woman should get married because once she’s older its good for her to have a family, It wud be a lonely life living by herself and i assume it would result in living life in sin too if you know what i mean. She cant live with her parents forever either tbh… Have to leave the nest one day.

@Deeba1234

Most of the time the girls parents won’t have the guts or would consider it rude to ask how soon the boy is planning on moving out of parents house if he’s living there and I know plenty of inlaws who said if the girl continues studying after marriage it’s ok only to change their minds later (esp if she lives with them)..

wow? i heard about the studying thing, they just lie when they say yes you can study, only a few get to be that lucky. However how is it rude when they ask that?

@Khumar

omg, some of you are such aunties! gawd!

gaah! it’s mentality of some of you “women” here that make the rest of us feel bad because we haven’t been hitched and have 5 kids when we hit 19!

Umm.. not really, Its just friendly advice, People can take it or leave it. Not the end of the world. I think its nice to open your mind at the age of 19 to get the idea of how these rishta things work and never know might come across someone you really like However there is the other option of finding the perfect guy yourself!