watching ALOT of morning shows, other shows on these pakistani channels, and even some western celebs have said the following.
that for a marriage to work, and for husband to be the way you want him to be, the woman has to do more of the compromising role, she had to do as husband says for around 2 to 5 years and after thats hes wrapped round her finger…
just sumarrising it all in my own words, but that was the gist of the advice.
who agreed.
and less of the bra-burning feminisism please,
thanks
SO who agrees/disagrees and is there any advice you have heard from celebs/tv/media that actually work in our mere simple mortal lives…
watching ALOT of morning shows, other shows on these pakistani channels, and even some western celebs have said the following.
that for a marriage to work, and for husband to be the way you want him to be, the woman has to do more of the compromising role, she had to do as husband says for around 2 to 5 years and after thats hes wrapped round her finger...
just sumarrising it all in my own words, but that was the gist of the advice.
who agreed.
and less of the bra-burning feminisism please,
thanks
SO who agrees/disagrees and is there any advice you have heard from celebs/tv/media that actually work in our mere simple mortal lives....
Ahhh this is wht r elders also say beta 1 2 Saale jan mar lo phr sarin zindagi ash krna I don't believe in it marriage requires compromises but it should be at both ends n especially self request is to b there don't compromise t tht extend tht ur self respect doesn't remain intacted
I think if bahoo adjusts her self in susraal in a nice way then whole life will be pursekoon. Quoting time of 1 or 2 years is not factual it just depends on how early she gets adjusted herself in susraal.
Thats what my mom also says. Shoro shoro main biwi/ bahu ko apni jaga banany k liye bohot mehnat kerni parti hai. Aik dafa shohar/ in-laws k dil main ghar ban jai, phir thora relax ho sakty hain. I am not very sure about this though.
Dude, BSB worked very hard to make this reputation in such a short time. Sharam karo alll the oldies on GS
I am not sure about that because its not my personal experience and I haven’t seen any such experiences first hand being away from extended family and joint families.
I don’t agree with mom though that after dil main ghar, apartment, banglow, villa etc bun jai tau relax ho sakty hain. One small mistake can ruin your lifetime hardwork. For a wife/ bahu, its continuous hardwork.
but then this is NOT a rule of thumb ! It varies person to person. Some men find it soothing that their wife is 'submissive' and this keeps them going and happy ; while others believe in equal rights and that is the way they work ! you cannot generalise it at all !
Kind a worked for me too. I am stubborn but my husband is even more. The first 3-4 years were hard, I did lot of compromising to make it smooth for us, but now wow what a change!! He is not wrapped around my finger, I actually dont want such a husband but he is very caring of my needs, maybe he now noticed my sacrifices and appreciates them a lot more... maybe prototype is right, he needed a 'submissive' wife but whatever I need peace in my home and as long as it keeps us both happy, why NOT.
Submissive does not mean slave. It means that she **allows **him to marry her, be her husband, and in a way, lead the relationship. By leading, I mean that he is expected to be spontaneous, make decisions if she is unsure, basically be a man. This does not mean that the wife has no say, just that she has **allowed **this particular man to have some leeway. I think this is important because men basically want to please women. Men fight wars, build companies, and make fortunes, because, among other reasons, it increases their chances with women.
I've read a lot of papers that confirm this as well. That said, there is a small percentage of women who prefer to lead, and there are some men who don't mind being led. The key is for these people to find each other.
We are unable to find rishtas NOT because we want to lead. Its because we have a few nakhras and guys have MANY MANY nakhras.
Who will lead and who will follow, these things can only be settled after the shaadi. Shaadi se pehley tau dono parties full try kerti hain abhi shadi tau ho jai. BAAAD main dekha jai ga
