Re: marriage advice from celebs!
ok. tell me more about it.Wheres my eating popcorn smiley
Re: marriage advice from celebs!
Idk. Sometimes I find it unfair that the wife has to be the one who has to adjust herself completely...doesn't make sense to me since there's two people entering a marriage...both should work together to lead a good life. It doesn't make sense for one to slave around in order to prove themselves to the other.
Re: marriage advice from celebs!
One friend of mine said that it's the woman who has to make the most compromises in a marriage. And another married friend once told me that her husband believes that the success of a marriage depends mostly on the efforts of the wife. I didn't like the way it was worded/sounded when she first told me but she seemed to agree with him ......and I didn't argue it with her. Today I was wondering why would a person even tell their spouse (husband or wife)...."Gee, y'know it's mostly up to you. If we're on the rocks, you're mostly to blame." That's a lot of pressure. My friend's husband may have worded it in a general way and not how I've put it.....but I still don't like the message it sends, it just doesn't sound nice. More power to her for being okay with it. I don't have the marital experience, but I prefer to see it as teamwork...compromises/give and take on both ends.
Re: marriage advice from celebs!
Social dynamics of desi society are different than West and like it or not women have to be more flexible in any role. Most girls even now marry into a joint family system and they have to adjust their behavior and routine according to susral. It is easier for girls who get to live separately from the begining because generally men also are very loving to their dulhans and couples take time to mutually adjust to each other.
Secondly, girls in our society have to compromise more because for them stakes are higher. We have taboo of divorce only for girls. Girls usually are not financially independent and after divorce there are slim to none chances for a girl to remarry.
It is not such a big deal for men though. My own relative had a messy marriage and divorce all with in a year. The guy got married next year to his colleague while the girl is left with the baby at her parents house. Her parents got so stressed over this mess that they are in poor health. Three of their daughters are still unmarried and one divorce with a baby at their home. I can imagine them having sleepless nights over this situation.
Truth is girls can save their marriages by being little flexible and not making it an ego contest.
PS. I don’t mean that live in an abusive relationship but usual sass /nand fights are not worth breaking up your marriage.