shawns
January 12, 2014, 2:37am
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Re: Marital Rape…
Some people so thoughtlessly post incomplete or out of context ahadees. How can one expect Allah and Prophet are going to be unjust in any sense. Beloved Prophet had put so much emphasis on women’s right that best amongst the men are declared those who are best with their families. Here is the entire hadees.:
Narrated 'Ikrima:
Rifa’a divorced his wife whereupon 'AbdurRahman bin Az-Zubair Al-Qurazi married her. 'Aisha said that the lady (came), wearing a green veil (and complained to her (Aisha) of her husband and showed her a green spot on her skin caused by beating). It was the habit of ladies to support each other, so when Allah’s Apostle came, 'Aisha said, “I have not seen any woman suffering as much as the believing women. Look! Her skin is greener than her clothes!” When 'AbdurRahman heard that his wife had gone to the Prophet, he came with his two sons from another wife. She said, “By Allah! I have done no wrong to him but he is impotent and is as useless to me as this,” holding and showing the fringe of her garment, 'Abdur-Rahman said, “By Allah, O Allah’s Apostle! She has told a lie! I am very strong and can satisfy her but she is disobedient and wants to go back to Rifa’a.” Allah’s Apostle said, to her, “If that is your intention, then know that it is unlawful for you to remarry Rifa’a unless Abdur-Rahman has had sexual intercourse with you.” Then the Prophet saw two boys with 'Abdur-Rahman and asked (him), “Are these your sons?” On that 'AbdurRahman said, “Yes.” The Prophet said, “You claim what you claim (i.e.. that he is impotent)? But by Allah, these boys resemble him as a crow resembles a crow,” Hadith ends.
I am sorry I must have missed something, where was the be nice to your family part of the Hadith, was AR admonished for beating the crap out of his lady and turning her blue and green, was he encouraged to stop and be gentle, conversely I read that the lady was encouraged to do AR first if she wants to go back to the man she wanted to b with.