Yes, the punishment for this in the West is severe. This doesn’t exist in Islam. Husbands have a lot of power in Islam and often times it gets abused. Anal rape can be grounds for divorce. There is no Islamic punishment other than that if it is between spouses. Vaginal rape does not exist between husband and wife. What the scholars say is that if the wife is healthy and not on her period or bleeding due to child delivery then she has to have intercourse with her husband. Even if she meets one of the exceptions and the husband forces himself on her then there is no Islamic punishment for the husband. The punishment is in the hereafter.
My view is that force or coercion is damaging to the marriage. Both partners should agree when having sexual relations. If the wife does not want to have lawful sexual relations when the husband calls her to bed then he should forgive her. A happy wife leads to a happy life. Voluntary action in everything.