Marital Rape......

[diwana]

Re: Marital Rape…

@rainydays

And the bla blah blah. If you aren’t frustrated much then don’t go around calling people multis etc. I don’t need to hide behind multis to express my views. May be with you it works.

Each and every word in your posts is gold and reaffirms ones views about you. Your posts even if ever somewhere carry some sanity get so clouded by your constant useless arguing that they merely get reduced to attempts at winning the arguments. And thats it. And true too. Not a very high goal to aim at or is it?

But khair the thing is why should you be taken so serious in the first place? Do quote this post and the rest and go on and on, whilst others chose to walk out of this vicious cycle.

Lets just say I quited you for the sake of quoting, otherwise, I cannot see any substance to it. Sorry.

@Reha

Hmmm…okay let me say what some girls might think but not say:

Have any of you thought WHYYYY women avoid sex with their husbands?

Sure, she might be tired, cranky, overworked, etc.
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BUT…from a woman’s perspective, your wife should WANT to have sex with you and if she doesn’t…there’s a problem that hubby dear isn’t realizing and needs to address.**

In a normal relationship where your wife is attracted to you, she will actually desire you. You won’t have to wait for weeks and weeks for her mood to get better and she decides to reward you with a little nookie.

If she avoids you all the time…its a sign for the dudes…do something!

Get a new haircut…good grooming is hot
Go to the gym with her or FORCE HER to go…gym does wonders for intimacy in a relationship
Buy better cologne…women love sexy cologne
Switch up your wardrobe a bit…a guy that tries to look nice is attractive

Become desirable…its not just a woman’s job in Islam to look nice guys…let’s remember this!

OH and by “nice” I don’t mean your definitions of nice…find out what SHE likes.

Absolutely agree to when you said a woman has to agree to have sex with the husband.

NOW:

Would you then agree that in case the husband does not find the woman as his wife attractive enough for ANY reason whatsoever and going out and spending time with other woman should be acceptable by those wives?

I know a woman (not from desi land) who is more than overweight ( the new term for them is ‘phat’)… and even her co-workers have mentioned her smelling from down there… when she comes close to these women and her husband has not made any move towards her in a while.

She still expects him to be pro-active and talks ill of him for not doing so.

My point is that it goes both ways:
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Try not to show, it is the men who are at fault if sexual attraction is failing between husbands and wives.
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@Sahdia77

That’s exactly how marriage felt for me, Reha, it was like being in a prison. Nothing allowed, not even the normal things and not even having basic human rights which even the Quran allows, being mistreated in various ways. I always read online and always whenever a mullah preaches, it’s the same thing: **females have to make themselves beautiful for their husbands, females have to do this, females must do that. **Rarely something about what the husband should do to make his wife happy.

I hope that discussions like these in this thread perhaps still open the eyes and minds of some of the males who read this so they will treat their wives better and end the suffering of females.

Forget about preparing for their husbands,

I say please at least take a bathe or shower…

Water is cheap women!!! **

Please take shower married or not. (I know a lot of desi and non-desi women who are scared of water even if they have a bathroom in their houses)
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Why can’t women take bathe or shower everyday and sometimes twice a day is my question…

Men know, a lot of women wear the same clothes/dress again without being washed or dry cleaned since they cannot be..

…and still have sweat smell from 6 months ago. J/K

@S_and_S

The part that is bold is an unfinished thought lol. “As she”… ? As she what? - Which also shows you clearly know I am a girl.

Its funny because you considered “a made up scenario” to be such a personal question when in reality you are not even married. So how does it become a personal question for you when it doesn’t even apply? But humor can be used for a lot of things and in this case it was avoidance for a very obvious fact. I also love your use of ‘extreme feminist’ every time you find yourself stumped to defend your very illogical stances.

As she was continued in brackets.

@Reha

One more thing I cannot understand about men who think about using their religious rights on a woman…

When a woman is rejected sexually, she feels pretty about herself. The last thing she does is force herself on someone who doesn’t find her desirable.

Why do men do that? How does that make any sense?

When a woman is rejected sexually, she does not really feels pretty about herself.

And if she does that would be very unusual and weird of her to still feel pretty about her.

As to your other sentence:

Women in general cannot force themselves on men for not being strong enough physically.

If they were physically equal then,… they might have been forcing themselves over men too…

…and the feminists would have not much to argue about.