Marital Rape......

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Re: Marital Rape…

@Nina85

Pathetic reasons? There was a case here in Quebec, where a woman had given birth 2 months prior and still did not feel ready for sex. Her stiches had just healed, she was tired and simly did not want it. Her husband got really upset, tried to force himself on her and when she struggled too much, he basically told her to leave his house ( they r Arab btw and the girl is a friend of my cousin).
So in your opinion, this was pathetic of her?? Not him??

@diwana

OK.

If you read my posts above, I never condoned any aggression towards any woman including wife.
Islam also does not allow aggression. Neither do I.

All throughout, I said there is no room to deny spouse his or her sexual need.

What is wrong with that?

NO.

When you gave example of this “Arab” man who acted irrationally and tried to force himself over his wife, that is plain and simple wrong.

(I am agreeing with your story here, just to agree with, otherwise, I am aware of Muslims, Pakistanis and Arabs made up stories and bias against them )

But if you read my posts above, you should have noticed what I said.

I said the marriage must have been in trouble even BEFORE this kind of event happens.

What makes a wife deny her husband sexual advances…despite she had baby of two months and stitches etc etc, as you described is not really true.

When marriage is on healthy term, BOTH MEN AND WOMEN try their best to please each other regardless what condition they are in.

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In your scenario: Both were idiots. Regardless of who was more wrong or less. And, the husband was a jerk.

**To be fair, you should make her responsible for creating the issue so big that a jerk ended up showing his jerkiness.

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If denial has to be made then it has to be made in polite manner…and not making other partner feel disgusted, rejected or angry at least mentlly.

To be fair, you should make her responsible for creating the issue so big that a jerk ended up showing his jerkiness.

Blaming the victim much?? Whether you agree with the definition of marital rape or believe that there can be any sort of sexual abuse in a marriage or not, what the man did in the case Nina described, is still domestic abuse. HIm forcing himself onto his wife who has barely healed, is NOT HER fault. It is entirely HIS fault. There is no room for “regardless of whose fault it was” because it was CLEARLY his fault. If a man feels disgusted, rejected and angry at his wife who is in pain and cannot have sex then the problem is again with the mental state of that man not with the woman.

You say that a marriage is about a man and woman fulfilling each other’s needs. Well those needs aren’t just sexual. If the man needed sex in Nina’s example, then the woman needed love and care. You need to grow up and get your head out of whatever the hell kind of twisted land it currently resides in.