Re: Marital Rape…
Peace All
I have only just seen this … And I have not had the benefit of reading the whole thread … From what PushtunWarrior posted … The counters accusing the men of using the Hadith as justification for zulm on their wives is wrong.
First of all … The Hadith proves that men are not allowed to beat up their wives … For if they were allowed to beat their wives to submission then …“a man going to sleep angry” is a mute point … Only the men who are helpless will go to sleep angry … LOL … So it can be seen that this Hadith is given to a culture of men who utterly respect their wives … So much so that if their wives say “no” then they become helpless.
It is for this reason that this Hadith is a reminder to the wives to respect the contract they have signed … Marital Rape is an oxymoron … Because Marriage means Sex is now permitted and rape means it is not permitted … The man or woman can easily prepare each other to become turned on to entertain each other’s needs … With may be a very few exceptions.
If a man beats his wife with or without sex or uses sex as a form of mental abuse then he is not doing zina … He is doing zulm … Because zina means where “sex is not allowed” … It is merely a technical point that drives the appropriating punishment.
So again I would like to stress those Hadith prove that men would go to sleep frustrated when their wives would say no to them (they would not beat them up) and hence a gentle reminder is given to prevent this and maintain the good relations between the couple.
the second point is that in the same set of Hadith the problem of the wife refusing is only relevant if the husband remains angry … If she says no and he can live with it without getting angry then they are in the clear … Just read the Hadith properly and all will become clear for all here too.
If you go to court on charges of domestic violence in front of a strict female judge and your defence is that your honor I should be awarded a medal as I went to bed angry, that proves I am a good man, they will lock you up and throw away the key, mostly in psychiatric ward. If you so much as raise your hand and not even strike your wife you will be locked up here, remember the new order of the world, human rights trump religious rights.