diwana
February 9, 2014, 3:13am
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Re: Marital Rape…
Diwana…we’re not going to see eye-to-eye on this issue. I already knew you were going to severely limit your interpretation of “animal” to refer to being in a state where one is so caught up in passion that one skips foreplay and affection altogether. I’m not being emotional; I am not advocating that wives deny sex frequently without reason at the detriment of the marriage. I’m using my sense based on the above hadith. I don’t care if you disagree, Diwana, because I am not trying to convince you.
I am not denying that a husband and wife don’t have sexyal rights upon each other as some people in this thread are doing. Both partners DO indeed have such rights over each other…but there is a prescribed manner for fulfilling those rights. It is the right of a child that a father provide for him. But if the father is not fulfilling that right, does that give the child the “right” or even “liberty” to punch dad in the face in order to get that “haq” from him? No, it doesn’t.
I personally believe that a good Muslim husband would not try to limit/confine the interpretation of “animal” in the hadith…and would instead use his God-given aqal and zameer…to ask himself k kya mera yeh ravaiyya/attitude/ jaanwar jaisa hai ya nahi…is it dignified and respectable or no? A man who desires to be “careful” with the Prophet’s SAWS admonishment…is going to think very carefully about his attitude/words/manner actions…not in a limited/restricted sense…but har tarha se…har tarha se. …in an overall sense…k is imy behavior befitting of a human being or is it brusque and lacking refinement and respect as that of an animal’s behavior? Aik simple sa concept hai, you’re turning it into rocket science. I vaguely recall reading other references of the Prophet SAW’s guidance for men for during and after sex…and even they reflect consideration for the wife and her needs/desires. From A-Z…it’s supposed to reflect consideration for your wife. So, when you say, “show some good emotions” …that will not include an attitude/manner of roughness or disrespect toward your wife in any way. Baat khatam.
No we will not.
We will not see eye to eye on this one until you agree in your own example ready to condemn the father who is not fulfilling the right.
You cannot fast forward and make people believe father is right in your scenario. First condemn the father please.
Did you not see how quickly some people skip this fact that denying to fulfill the right is wrong?
Those misguided women cannot have the cake and eat it too…who think they can deny their husbands anytime and for whatsoever pathetic reason they feel like.
They don’t need to go all around the world blaming husbands looking for satisfaction outside marriage.
