Re: Marital Problems
You say your dad is fragile and divorce would break him and people will talk about you in your community. Let me tell you that if your dad knew the pain and the hurt you were going through and WILL have to go through for the rest of your life that is what would really break him. We all worry about our parents izzat and don't want to hurt them but some times you have to face reality and do what will help you and I'm sure Allah s.w.t doesn't want you to go through this hurt and that's why we are given choices/decision in life and that's why we have a brain and a heart to make these decisions with. People who sincerely care about your well being and your sanity will respect you if you stood up for yourself and those who don't care about you will be the ones who sneer. This is my opinion and if I was going through the same thing I would have left time a long time ago. Your parents didn't love you and give you such a good upbringing and education for you too be treated like this in fact, they thought these qualities would gain you respect from your husband. If my daughter was going through the same thing I would tell her the same. Please don't be offended this is my opinion. If you had said you had been married for a couple of months I would have said…give it time, but two years is enough suffering in my eyes.