Re: Marital Problems
It is a tragedy that at times we fail to realize that "Action speaks louder than words" which is exactly the reason some people (in this case husband) fail to be able to see what they want in people who are related to them.
I think it would be better if it is conveyed to him that the most effective and sincere actions results due to the "light from within" not by force. But ofcourse a reminder should be given from time to time with "Hikmah"
Sister, as it seems that there still is some hope in keeping this relationship alive (atleast for the sake of your parents, in their life) as he has shown few signs that he can become a good person, I think the best was to deal with him is to mention frequently Allah in your discussions. There are two benefits of that:
Mentioning attributes of Allah helps in softening the heart of the person who hears it, because of love for Allah. Also he fears the punishment of his rudeness.
Discussing and mentiong Attributes of Allah (swt) acts as a spark to light the fire of "Imaan" within a muslim, that automatically leads to good manners and attitude.
Also keep doing good (because every good action has atleast some good reaction) without expecting anything good in return (because we are hurt mostly when we are not mentally prepared to deal with a rude behaviour)
May Allah (swt) forgive me if I said anything wrong. May Allah (swt) put "barakah" in your efforts and accepts your sincere efforts.
InshaAllah everything would be fine as Allah knows BEST! and our mental capabilities are too limited to understand the "Maslehat" (wisdom) of Allah in the situations / difficulties we come across in life