If you have issues with your spouse/married life/inlaws etc.
who do you turn to first? (IF you turn to anyone at all)
your best friend who knows you so well that you can ask a generic/nonsensical question and she will answer it exactly as if you asked a specific question. but is single, has very limited firsthand experience with relationships but is very book smarts.
OR
Someone who doesnt’ know you as well, but you get along, and they’re married and face a similar situation as you so has the experience and wisdom to offer advice.
Hmmmm...I have never discussed marital issues with my parents although I am very open with them and can confide in them and be super comfortable talking to them about anyone anything...but I learnt that discussing fights-with-husband or other related issues with parents is never a good thing....
I say this from personal experience...I was in a messed up situation once...turning to the parents could have sparked it even more....I turned to one of my good friends...she had never had any similar personal experiences etc...it was not an easy thing to do....but she was a great great help.....
In a nutshell...whatever the issue might be,and if I have to talk to someone other than my better half, I will turn to my best friend who knows me well....no matter if they have or haven't been in the same situation..
I don't share my marital problems with anyone except my husband. If I have a problem with him, we talk it out. And so far Alhamdolillah, I didn't have to turn to someone else for advice...but if i had to, I'd go with someone who has had similar experience and has something useful to offer.
I don't like to discuss my marital problems or personal problems with too many people. But the only two people who I share everything with is my husband and my sister. They know everything about me. If I have a problem with my hubby, we will discuss it and communicate. However, my sister is also someone whom I share alot of my troubles with.
they are mine and his marital issues and noone other than him or myself will knows whats best... thats the way i see it. We have had issues... be it big or small, we can sit together and solve it. We know we have to, so we do..
I dont like discussing my issues with anyone, only cus i dont want anyone to think anything bad of my hubby. Even though at times i can be really really mad at him, that right is only mine, and noone else can think bad of him.. otherwise they have me to deal with. I just cant hear anyone say anything bad about him... and to think that i may have fueled it, i wont be very happy with myself.
Jaanwar... no Life 1 can sometimes be very damaging... I dont even discuss my issues on here, but sometimes after reading advice on here, can really distort ur thinking process
^ it's best to sort it out urself cuz even ur family might not understand the situation and may blow it out of proportion and will look at ur husband differently just cuz they love u and never wanna see u in any problem.
No they take everything on Life 1 seriously, that is obviously why they write posts that are actually thesis papers on matters of no importance at all.
haha... well hypothetically speaking...there are only 2 options, the single best friend who knows u well, or hte married person who has the same issues as u.
Best friend, I'd say. They will always give you the best advice, at least they would be genuinely concerned. A friend who is having issues could have a clouded judgment.