… but it is true. I was reading this thread… Suhag Raat](http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/Forum2/HTML/005093.html), and realized that many of the members think that pre-marital sex is probably non-existent in Pakistan. While most of us may wish it to be true… and I always thought it to be the case, trust me, I was in for a rude awakening when I was in college.
Allah ka shukr hai, that I kept myself distanced from such things, but I know it from very close friends and class-fellows, in fact I have seen it far too many times, to be proud of it… that pre-marital sex is rampant in colleges in big cities. Trust me the correct word is ‘rampant’. Extremely sad, but true.
In Lahore, even some of my own class-fellows had girl-friends, not just phone-friends or dinner-friends, but ‘real’ girl-friends. Some girls do it openly (so called broad-minded families), but most do it without the knoweldge of their parents.
The intent here is not to glamorize the issue or to generalize it. The idea is to raise awareness that something is wrong somewhere. Our culture is supposed to care for itself. I am sure if there is more parental influence on the kids, grand-parents given more respect, families being more together, these things never go out of hand.
Sadly, our society is becoming a target of foreign media invasion, where such things (pre-marital relationships) are projected as ‘fun’ and the ‘in-thing’.
In our college, me and a few friends, organzied the ‘Whats Wrong is Wrong’ campaign. It involved one-to-one and group sessions, where we impressed upon our group and other students that just because someone else is doing ‘it’ doesn’t make it right. And to have knoweldge about our religion and our culture is important. One thing we all agree on is that each one of us is going to die one day, and it is our deeds here which will go with us.
I am very glad to say that we had a remarkable success. Ofcourse, there are a few people here and there who just couldn’t give up (and used to call us spoil-sport and maulvis), but by and large we had a very succcessful campaign.
The rudest shock is that there is no, or apparently no, such support group in girls’ colleges. My feeling was that girls were doing it just for the heck of it. "Everyone is doing it’ sorta thing. Or probably they enjoy this sense of ‘adventure’. The % of girls indulging in this activity is much higher than what you and me can reasonably guess.
Those who are students right now can probably comment more clearly on this issue. Unfortunately, many of us just choose to ignore this issue or consider that it involves a very low percentage of our population, hence should be swept under the carpet. I’d say this is our future generations which are going astray. The collapse of family is the single most tragic aspect of western civilization. Are we inviting a similar disaster in our society by ignoring the tell-tale signs?